I have a close friend who has been treated badly by men for many many years, and she still keeps attracting them.

We are happy just being close friends, as although she finds me attractive it never would have worked out in the sack, apparently, I'm definitely not going to go into detail! and trust me I'm no prude.
Anyway she once said this to me :-

"Phil, do you know how tough it is to not be treated badly?"

I have never ever forgotten this, it was a real eye opener for me, and we often talk about it. Now she counsels and gives talks to groups of women who have been abused by men.
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"The problem with life is that you can only understand it backwards, yet you have to live it forwards..."

I married my wife who had, what you so briefly and casually describe as, emotional baggage from the years of sexual abuse at the hands of 5 out of 6 older brothers. She had been raped while she was a teenager. Came from a dysfunctional family meaning that there was no nuclear family. Yet she managed to make peace with her issues and marry me and bring two wonderful kids into this world regardless.
I know many people who think that they are problem free but these days coming from a dysfunctional family or having been abused in one form or another is sadly almost the norm. This includes myself as i was abused as a kid. Mentally, physically and at a later age sexually. Now i can talk about it like i am talking about the weather and it does not sting so much any more. But it took me some time to deal with this and i am as fine as i possibly can be. Like it. Don't like it. Like me. Don't like me. That is entirely up to you just remember when it is your turn to carry the suitcase with you it can just as easily be dropped on the floor with a little help in the end.

Everybody has emotional baggage of various sorts. It's really a question of how you deal with it and let it affect your life. Some becomes part of you in such ways that you can never find nor understand it.
But then again. It's the experiences we have (and the way they transform us as beings) that make us desirable or nawt for our future partners and balanced or nawt as individuals. Again, what one might find as a flaw another might find as a quality.
Babblin again. May I be excused?

can somebody give some examples of what is considered to be emotional baggage these days?

Personally, I think that the term "emotional baggage" is often bandied around by those that don't understand or tolerate the other person's feelings/point of view etc. (generally speaking, from personal experience, not a blanket stereotype, please note!).
For myself, I interpret "emotional baggage" as anything that I have not dealt with and put behind me in a healthy manner.
I don't think age has anything to do with it - except of course you could say that as one gets older you have more life behind you/maturity and thus hopefully have less "clutter" in your suitcase - no, that should read "MORE clutter, but more neatly packed!" - but on the flip side, better than being emotionally sterile.

men can certainly come with baggae too, one of my x es kept saying dont do tht cause my x always did tht or said tht, it drove me nuts.
even his mum said he was being unsensetive keep saying tht .

When i go in a new relationship, i give it a fresh start, i choose to trust them no matter what i v been through and i give it my all....

Emotional baggage comes from their past reationships when they call you by their ex's name on New Year's Eve as they're about to kiss you, talk about their ex by his first name all of the time, flinch every time you raise your hand to offer them the pepper pot over dinner, and automatically drop their pants when you pass them the bottle of olive oil whilst cooking in the kitchen...!