why is it when men ask if i have children and i tell them the truth yes i have 2
that they never reply back yet they are the ones that asked me the question
also why ask when they have said they have read my profile and it says i have kids then decide to ask a question thay obviously know the answer too

also my kids are not baggage they are my world and always will be x x x

See tha's the problem right there...

Your kids aren't baggage they are your WORLD. If they were baggage this would've been much easier for others... But there are lots of people who can't stand to be 2nd best, your kids being first... There are also people who don't really want responsibilities (not even their own, not to speak of someone elses)...

But, again, the one who likes you for you, will want you with all your kids, qualities and 3 heads (as Sarah Jessica Parker would say in SATC).

As for the ones who say they've read your profile and still ask if you have kids... They're not even worth an answer, really... Woods are full of idiots.

Hope this helps.

Best of luck to you !

I agree with bliss on this one, there are a whole lot of men who can't take second place to children, but it's far better to know that and for a relationship to be a non-starter, than finding out down the line that to watch you with your kids makes his 'blood boil'
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After a quick look at your profile (and pics ) i say this... Ignore them. You're a good lookin lass and can easily do better than anyone that isn't willing to take on a single parent.
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thank you for answering back people and i do think to myself what is the piont in talking to them lol
but it dont stop getting me down the fact that i have kids that i will put first all the time before anyone but when i get ignored thats not nice
most men these days dont want someone with kids
and to know that make me think that its going to be impossible for me to ever find love
its also what i have been thru in past relationships that make me think no one will ever love me for me

Now that surely cannot be true. As cynical as I am, I still cannot believe such things.

There are lots of nice guys out there and SURELY some of them good guys will take you as you are...

Perhaps you should give single dads a try too.

Anyway, please don't think you'll never find someone... You're far too good.

Start with the internal battle: the feeling that it's impossble to find someone to love you.
Do your daughters not love you?
Do you not have many other people in your life who love you?
You are already loved and lovable.
So that's your mantra for each day - when you get out of bed, have a shower, look in the mirror, etc...
'I'm loved and lovable!'
If you are introduced to someone, you say, 'Hi, I'm Tinkerbella and I'm loved and lovable! How do you do!'
OK, it's a bit silly, but you get the idea - the belief comes first.
Then put yourself about - either physically or virtually - and into places where this guy might be. Don't wait for him to come and find you.
Have you searched on here for any likely-looking local guys?
Have you messaged them? Or sent a Want To Meet?
Sent dozens? Then send 100s!
It's just a question of numbers - it's not personal.
There is someone for you.
*You* can't decide - without doing everything possible - that there's no-one out there for you. I'm sure there must be.
Bliss is sure there must be...

And Bliss is never wrong!
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thank you again you all have made me start to think positive and i hope that one day i will find the right man whether it be months or years aslong as i find him thats the main thing isnt it lol

i hope you all find your soulmates or whatever you would like to call them i hope you all lead a very happy life
i know i will as i am now thinking positive

im only 24 i have my whole life ahead of me
and i will make the best life for my daughters and for me
whether it be with a man or not x x x

you lot are great x x x

Too be honest. When I was younger, I probably wasnt interested in women with kids. Although it didnt really put me off the women...I didnt think it would be long term.

Now I regret not having kids, and most women my age the kids have grown up. So they have grand kids..which is acceptable

Some of the above might sound crass..but unfortunetly some younger men do look at kids as being baggage. But of course not all do..so its just finding the right one..which may not be easy

I'm speaking from having chatted to a lot of younger women with kids on the net ...and met a few, and I hear the same thing. So I know how hard it can be.

But good luck..we all deserve happyness

I always thought the concept of any relationship whether there are children involved or not is equality in a relationship.

Good on you hun. your children must be proud of you and love you as you do with them. any man who just wants you and not the dhildren is just pathetic in my opinion. they need their heads examining.

If I was considering dating someone with children, to be honest I would be a bit worried. not for the issue of the children needing more love and attention. it would be the concern of the involvement of the ex partner. there can sometimes be risks and complications where examples follow.

The ex partner may not like you dating the lady in question and take advantage or control. some cases have been known to include violence and abduction of the child / children concerned, abuse against you or your date.
the ex partner may attempt to re kindle the relationship, win your date's heart and somewhere down the line you are left at stage 1.

People do have those concerns if they think in a logical way but sadly most men who see a woman with children aren't interested in bonding with the children or any involvement with them at all and are only interested in you or a one night stand. It is sad to see this in a world but it happens sadly.

You will find someone who loves you for you and will accept your children as part of the package. just remember that you and your kids are the package and there's no changing that. any man who tells you to leave your kids with someone else is a TOTAL IDIOT and in my honest opinion should have his balls removed or sense knocked into him.

you deserve happiness and I wish you good luck and happiness when and I say WHEN you find that someone who will be happy to share his life with you and your children.

take care and good luck.

elw

Tinkerbella

You are such a pretty girl the I cant imagine that you will have any trouble finding the right man.

If people are not bothering to read your profile properly that’s their problem and not yours. Don’t take other peoples shortcomings onto yourself.

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Think of it as a good first filter.

If I was 30 years younger I would be after you myself.
Actually make that 20 years younger
No – what are you doing tonight? LOL

Leiston is a bit remote and might be reducing the number of responses, but then most people probably haven’t read that bit either.

well, some guys they do say they have read your profile but its like they are not keenly reading it.So that's why they asked again.

Obviously, they don't want to have someone with children even if you considered them as "not a Baggage".

Well, cheer up..the right one will come for sure..

Well that's an encouraging picture !

C'mon, Bliss, don't tell me you've never seen this before?
A lovely young, albino, vampire woman, lying on a beach naked, with a mini-oilwell spouting out of a heart-shaped hole in her chest?
No beach is complete without one!
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In my experiance of running several chat sites over the years not many men read profiles. They see a picture they like and start asking questions. men in general dont like reading things. Ie they buy a new phone but wont read the manuel to find out how it works they just want to work it out themselves then complain cuase it wont work. or they get lost in a car and wont ask for directions. They would rather stay lost or try to read a map. Men also dont like taking on kids but some will. My x had 3 kids and i was happy to take them on as well. But my x dumped me cause i spent to much time with the kids lol. They always asked me if they could go out not their mum. They came to me if they needed help with school stuff. I was always 1st to see school reports or letters from school. But when the kids asked me if they could call me dad their mum went nuts and dumped me and beat the crap out of the kids. She was 6 months preg with my son at the time. She wont let me see him. He is 4 now and dont know who i am. I still hear from her kids though. They all left school and miss me loads. They call me dad in the txts and tell me how my son is doing. Its things like that that put a lot of guys of going out with girls with kids. Its also hard on the kids. So think about what u want a BF to be like with the kids. R u willing to let a guy be a father to the kids and treat them like his own. would u be happy or angry if the kids wanted to call him dad. How will the kids dad react to u having a new guy around taking care of his kids. I know i wont be happy if my son called another guy dad but would live with it as i wont have any choice.