it's a man thing

I am goin to sound like an old cynic but I can't bare a partner telling me they 'love' me. Argh! show me u love me don't tell me.

Its just a word ,and actions speak louder than words.

I tend to agree with Matt, however, in the past I've discovered that hearing "I love you" tended to be the start of the end of the relationship, more a chance for them to say I need to convince myself that I love you but I'm not really sure.
It is after all just a saying, again actions speak louder than words, I think one instinctively knows if someone loves them I don't have to hear it every day, as I've said before to hear it all the time I then tend to mentally question what's coming next.

I do tend to find that if someone says it a lot, that it's a indicator that something isn't right ...

Now love is a varied thing, and everyone expresses it in different ways ... some people show it constantly, yet never say a word ... but, if someone constantly needs to inform you that they love you, you may want to start paying attention as to wether or not other parts of their behaviour have changed, or if they do anything other than vocalizing to express their love to you.

If said too much, it does become just a word. But I think you can tell when someone means it and when they don't.

But I totally agree on rather than just saying it, show it. One ex, he constantly told me he loved me yet he still argued with me and didnt trust me at all...but he was a knob though!!

Generalizations galore.

It varies from persona. Most men do, unfortunately, use the words to get into knickers,etc.
Women, they use it for different reasons altogether. (of which i cannot speak as i am ill qualified and of no mental capacity to comment on.)

In every relationship, you go through the "I like you" bit. That bit where you get all huffed and puffed over a sly look she gave you.

Soon you find yourself a bit happy about how things are going, and through means undecipherable you find out she likes you too. You go out for a bit, and then you find yourself growing on her
the "3 words" everyone is talking about are not far away and by whatever quirk or not, "I Love you" bit comes into play.

days, weeks and months pass, "I love you" turns into a daily ritual. Like 3 meals a day, a quota must be fulfilled. Slowly, either by repetition or ingnorance, this becomes a chore.

very soon, "I love you" changes into "I love you sooooooo (incremental addition of "o's") much" and soon that changes into it's much deadlier counterpart "how much do you love me?"

Inevitably, it becomes "I HATE YOU!" henceforth going downhill.

HERE'S THE CLINCHER!!

Never forget how "I like you" feels. never let your original feelings cloud how you feel about a person, it will never grow old.

of course, these are all nice words in a not so nice world. if someone likes you for your arse and so forth, then all that is irrelevant because the thing they like will change in time.

Hmmm, very well put!!

I have the perfect three words, istead of I like/love you, how about I want you. Good in the heat of passion, not too lame and nothing to commit yourself to saying over and over.

I guess as some have said, it's an individual thing. My boyfriend tells me nigh on daily, and I know he means it as much each time. It took him a very long time to be able to say it, and I know that it's a phrase he's not bandied about lightly in past relationships. Occasionaly, in more serious moments he'll tell me how much he values my friendship or that he likes me as a person.

There's no hidden agenda, just his way of not taking our relationship for granted.
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it's probably because u push it to say that....