To shut you up.


IMO, it should be shown. Make them something, buy something, do something to show what they mean to you. It should also be done both ways. Spontaneously. No point in the guy going all out for the girl if she's not going to put the same or more effort into it, and vise versa.
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"If I had it in my power, I would arrange for every girl to have your charm. Then every minute, every hour every boy would find what I found in your arms"

The question is why do guys tell you they love you when they don't?

First of all don't ever ask so they won't have to lie.

Secondly I can't imagine 9/10 guys don't want to get into your knickers.
And thirdly I know of guys who despite being in a relationship is still
on the prowl. Problem is, they just ain't getting enough or any from
either their wives or girlfriends. Does sound bad but that's reality.

I'm sure not all guys are like that.

Because it is the one real attempt they will make at pleasing you by saying something they think you want to hear but don't at all mean. Sadly, it is the most important attempt they will make and the one which has the most gravity for the female species so they don't realize what the big deal about it is(men are physical plane drifters and women are mental plane drifters-and yes, I just made that up but it is true).

I like to believe actions speak louder than words so when someone says they love me, I just wait to see what they'll do about it. The good news is that nobody ever tells me so no waiting here on my part!! I guess it keeps me from having to do all the mental gymnastics-- which is good. Leaves room for other stuff..

Muse almost nailed it.

Guys can be guilted or pressured into it, I only said it once and not meant it. The girl looked like she was going to explode with grief with each passing second of stunned silence after she blurted it out to me. I said it more with the intention of stopping a bomb from going off than thinking of the potential consequences (ohh and by christ they were heavy) of it.

People mix infatuation with love, and for some bizarre reason instead of just enjoying things the way they are they have to screw things up with blurting out the 'L' word too bloody soon to you.

Have to agree with Chief O'hara here. Have made the same mistake, told somebody i loved them cos didn't want to hurt them. Have also told 1 fella I loved him (was bit drunk at the time), and have been morto ever since.

Will never say it again to any1 unless i'm really sure

It's that 'L' word, isn't it?

It's a word that I take pretty seriously, but sometimes it's hard to come up with an alternative for a person that I really care about and am intensely fond of (but don't actually love)

A toughie, huh?

tim

women do it too lol
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The most awkward situation I've been in where the 'L' word is concerned was telling a guy I loved him and knowing he couldn't say it back.

I never expect the same in return and am quite happy to express my own feelings, just as if someone were to tell me they loved me, they mustn't expect me to always say it back.

It made the situation very uncomfortable. Thankfully, his actions spoke much louder than that one word.

Funny how losing me made him realise just how much he thought of me tho'

I have been thinking on this long and hard.. They do it all for the nookie.

That is all.