I think girls who are looking for love sometimes seem too desperate to find love and it can feel like you are being forced into something, forced to return their "I LOVE YOU's" etc.

Also with those girls it sometimes is clear that they have gotten to the point where they will settle for anyone who returns their I LOVE YOU's which is quite obviously not love. Therefore it feels like the whole situations fake and you really cant be interested in wasting time and energy on simply uplifting someone elses self esteem while you pull your own down.

Apart from that finding someone to love is extremely hard for me. Its a specific type of person and i just dont see those kinda girls around ^_^
I think its like that with everyone. You cant fall inlove with everyone so it may seem that a guy doesn't want love, but perhaps he wants something different from what you're offering.

i gant speak for guys in general, only for myself, but as a guy i would say that i wouldnt be "looking" for love, that would be a very stupid thing to do. love is something that develops, you cant look at a girl and think "oh.. i could fall in love with her". i might look at a girl and think... "hmmm she is very asthetically pleasing" , but that would by no way be perfect foundation for a relationship in which love would blossom, perhaps lust would blossom?
more important to me would be common interests, cause lets face it... if the only time we are acctually enjoying a shared time together was during love... then ther aint much to work on is there?
"the old and ugly ".... beauty is in the eye of the beholder, i agree there should be some physical attraction, if i was lookign for a one night stand then yeah, a blonde bimbo with huge boobs is perfect, but for ANYTHING longer then i would rather have a dawn french look alike with her sence of humour, and things in common with myself (did you notice in both senarios ... they have big boobs :S lol )

another reason guys might not be looking for love.....
some of us have very busy lives, with ex's and children and work commitments, the thought of giving more commitment to someone else is rather daunting.
like i said i cant speak for guys in general, only my own thoughts

Yeah some of us want love, .........and some of us also want their gf to dress up in kinky leather with thigh high boots and call us big boy why cracking a whip.



....or is that just me

omg wonderlust, i totally agree with what you say

you make alot of sense hun

Hi I dont agree that men just want love. My ex was very loving told me constantly that he loved me. The biggest mistake I made was not telling him enough in return and I am now paying for it. I left a marriage of 21 years without much love and found this guy who adored me, but as I was used to rejection I found it hard to tell him how I felt about him regularly. It has cost me my relationship although we are still in touch. So some guys do show love and need it just as much as us girls do

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Hi trev , am fairly new to the site so still nosing around

Hi cazabee thanks for the welcome

Hi scubawallace. we are in touch and he knows how I feel about him but hes a complicated type of guy. Hes very jealous posessive and constantly accuses me of cheating ( we live inseparate cities) Because I broke it off with him, hes made me suffer by knowing how much I love him but telling me hes not sure yet (after 3 months of trying) if he wants to try again.