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19.09.2008, 23:23 quote

rocketgirl

ohtheguilt89 wrote:
have been talking to the girl i like a lot recently we both like each other and have kissed 3 times however i feel like i cant move any further at the moment because one of my mates likes her as well and she hasn't done anything with him and has told him she doesn't like him that way, am i right to e holding back or should i go for it ?

he has been getting pissed off with me talking to her as much as i do at the moment, anyone had any experience of this ? i need to do something soon though because i cant see her hanging around forever ...

thoughts ???


Just 2 questions:
1. For what reason are you 'holding back'?
2. What are *your* thoughts?!

 

19.09.2008, 23:34 quote

rocketgirl

Yeah I can understand you not wanting to hurt his feelings and all...but she has made it clear it is *you* she likes, not him....and you like her...so what you gonna do all your life?
Miss out on all the girls that your mate likes? Even if said girls dont feel the same way about him, but prefer you?
What kind of friendship do you have with this guy then? You afraid of him? Doesnt sound a terribly balanced friendship....if his feelings are more important than your potential happiness....I realise you are young and so your mate is probably young also, but its about time he grew up and realised all is fair in love and war, if he sulks, let him. He'll get over it. Do you really need a mate who controls your love affairs?

 

19.09.2008, 23:45 quote

rocketgirl

DONT LET HIM USE HIS HISTORY OF DEPRESSION AND SELF-HARMING TO CONTROL YOU!!!

(Speaking from personal experience. Wink )

One possibility is to make sure you do not slack off your friendship with him because you are seeing her - lots of people do that and it is hurtful to your pals when you suddenly dont have time for them, then all over them like a rash again when your relationship goes tits up.

Think hard. As I already said, are you prepared to miss out on stuff you want to do - be it ask a girl out, go away to uni or whatever for this friend? I know i am going to sound harsh, but you are not his keeper. If he has problems with self-harming and depression - you are not responsible for him.

 

20.09.2008, 00:07 quote

rocketgirl

Its a shame i'm the only one around to chat with you right now, it is late mind!
You know, its a really good thing that you are so mindful of your mate, just like I said mind you dont get manipulated.
Whatever you decide, good luck! x

 
 
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