ive just come out of a long term violent relationship and now he wont leave me alone ive contacted the police but im scared to let the police say to him leave me alone cos of his anger make things worst i fear for my life i have changed my mobile numb so he cant contact me is there anything else i can do

Apply for a court injunction order that way the fu*ker won't be allowed anywhere near you..turn the tables on him,,and show him you're not afraid..show your weakness and he will always have that over you..Good luck x

http://www.compactlaw.co.uk/free_legal_information/injunctions/injunf2.html#2Unmarried

Plenty of sites on net to advise you how to apply for an order...

Well done for coming out of the relationship. I hope you find peace and freedom within your life now. The most difficult part is done, you've left him.

Court injunctions can take time though are effective.
If the threat is immediate,go back and tell the police Everything that has been said, threatened or implied.
If possible stay with someone you know and trust and try to keep some kind of record of every time he contacts you. Do not delete or erase any messages such as text, Email or answer machine and again pass them on to the police. If you have some record or witness to his behaviour the police can be more forceful with warnings. Do not get involved in any further communication ie. do not reply to any messages or calls.
Not nice or easy, all the best.

i've been through a similar experience wiv my ex husband. You've already done the hardest part by leaving him. When i kicked my ex out i was able 2 get an emergency court order immediately 2 protect me from any immediate threat while the application 4 the court order went through. The emergency order couldnt be contested by my ex but he was allowed 2 argue his case when the other 1 went 2 court (not that it made a difference 2 the outcome). My solicitor told me it was best gettin a power of arrest attached 2 the order that way if he breached the order he could be arressted there & then without it if he breached the order he'd of jus been taken back 2 court 4 the breach he wouldnt of been arrested unless he'd broke the law as well. Obviously times change & it was 5 years back when i went through it so you'd b best off spkin 2 a solicitor or spkin 2 some1 from citizens advice this is just my personal experience. All the best stay strong keep your chin up & my heart goes out 2 u all the best 4 the future.

Hi, I as have many others have been in your situation...here's a link to Womens Aid, incase you either need someone to talk to, or if you feel under such a threat you cannot bear to stay where you are....There's Refuges all over the country, so you do not have to stay at your home, or anywhere near if you don't feel safe enough to do so.

I have been in 3 different refuges, and although they were different, they have very caring and understanding staff there who know the law in and out and can help you...they can even help rehouse you too...here's the link hun, hope it helps

http://www.womensaid.org.uk/

p.s. A vast majority of the women who work for womens aid and support victims of DV are women who have suffered and overcome it at some point in their lives GOOD LUCK xxxxx

My heart goes out to any woman who has had to deal with/put up with domestic voilence. I have always told myself that any guy who was brave enough to hit me, would not get a 2nd chance ........... i would be off the very first time he did it.

I hope you get all the help you need and get him out of your life xxx

Speaking from experience, it is best to get the police involved, otherwise he will NOT leave you alone.

Also make sure that somebody knows where you are at all times, if you really do fear for your life.

Write down every little incident, keep messages etc..and if you have to - tell the police exactly what went on in the relationship. With any luck, they won't let him go anywear near you.

The other option, of course, is to move away, and make it clear to everyone you do NOT want to be found by him.
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Laura
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Confidence - Wear it like make up.

Blonde and single...

Some really good advice has been offered above.
I work in this field, I would advise you to speak to a specialist Domestic violence officer at your local police division and explain everything.
They will assist you and offer support and protective measures, including injunctions as detailed above.

Send me a message if you want to discuss further.

Good luck and dont look back, your lifes on the up because you have taken the step to leave this pathetic bully!
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Were the Sweeney son, and we havent had any dinner......

Hope all the above helps as she's not been back since the day she started the thread.
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I just got a text from my mate today, and her new boyfriend's hit her after a drink or two. It's less than 2 weeks of their first meeting. I've told her to dump him, if it were me I'd have already had the police on him.
I can't talk to her yet I'm concerned, but I know she's safe at home with her moggs now.

Why do people have so much anger ready to burst????

Seriously i have no idea why would ppl resort to violence. we should have good control of our temper especially when we're all adults

It's a sad fact, but violence is no longer just men hitting out at female partners, but violence against men is also on the increase but due to the 'stigma' it's said to be less reported.

Certainly been a few notable cases of that of late, including that woman who bit a chunk of her partners tongue out. OWWWW. Drink involved there too iirc.
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