Wow..so happy for you and another happy flirtbox ending...just to show it does happen...many many happy years together...cheeers to ya

Congratulations!

I'm sure anny comments were made in jest

I am off to get me hat!!!
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Well heres the final update.
Yesterday Lynnette broke up with me and today im sat in the house on my own awaiting my lift to take me back to England.
I feel so alone, i really do im so madly in love with her, and thats the problem.

Things in the begining were fine, but then a week or so before xmas her Great Nan fell ill.She was diagnosed with cancer, and even though she was 91 they still operated on her to remove it from her bowel.
Anyway at this moment in time she has around 48 hours to live.

During this time Lynnette has being close one minute and totally distant the next.
I treid my best to be there for her.In every way shape and forum, unfortunetly i took it personally and kept asking her if it was me being here that was making her unhappy, end of the day i just wanted to know.

We did have a few disagrements, mainly over money when i first moved in as i had to relocate to Wales, which ment no job.
So other arguements were over trivial things like her funny moods and my complaining, etc etc but nothing heated.
Our sex life was practical none existant since xmas maybe 3 times ,for which considering we hadnt been together that long i found that a concern.
Now me being me i cant bottle things up so i had to tell her this.
Ok my timing was lousy ,but even she agreed.

The really sad thing for myself was we got engaged to be married.She had the ring, she bought the dress, tiara, and shoes.

She has told me that she might just need some time, but i have read in another forum that she isnt in love with me and she wasnt happy, which i could see.

So the fairytale is over...im broken hearted again..So many things about us was so perfect, when i kissed her she moaned like they do in the movies.
Her eyes would melt into mine.God how i miss her.
She told me that when i kissed her that she got butterflies in her stomach and when i was going to leave she cried..
Anyway im going in 5 so take care all
Sorry about teh sad news.

sad news mate, ..hope things work out for you

Awwwhhh sorry to hear that
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Maybe after the family trouble has blown over she will realise what she has thrown away, dont lose all faith just yet, be patient and see what happens

yep i'd maybe take a back seat for now , whilst she deals with things - dont give up tho

Must be really tough...

But that's the problem with finding someone - there are so many stages until you finally found the right one.

There are many stages until you reach something like a relationship which you have had - and then there are even iterations until you found the right one for a long-term relationship or marriage.

The only thing that is worse is probably to marry and have children and then break up after 10 years....

You can learn how to "keep" a girlfriend as far as managing problems and arguments is concerned....and I think if you can handle conflicts and have a sense for what is the best thing to do in a certain situation you can "extend" relationships a lot - but there is nothing you can do about someone not being in love with you unfortunately.

thanx for the support people ...i had to cut my story short due to Lynnette mum and step dad moving me back to england.
Dave (her step dad) said i was a fool and i was running away...but end of the Day Lynnette told me to go so..
She didnt even say goodbye to me, so that really upset me.
thing problems lied with the fact lynnette bottled things up and she would hardly talk to me.
Handbag.com has alot to anwser for cause she was always on there and listening to people online advice about our relationship etc etc,and that didnt help on her part.
Im not blaming the forum for our breakup but if she had spent the time talking to me and not a bunch of strangers then things might of been different,
Anyway im back in england and im only a hour away from Lynnette and i hope like one of the recent replies said here that give her time and space.
Thats my only hope..
Just seems to me she threw something that was really good away before it really got a chance.
Im sure if her nan hadnt of fell ill id still be there now.
Things happen for a reason?
All i know is that im broken hearted and the girl that could never take her eyes off me now doesnt love me.
Im so sad my heart is broke.
Can you love someone to much?
I think i did,

if her dad says that then there must be something he knows that you don't. it's not often a girls dad will say to stay! she could be suffering mild deppression which also causes lack of libido maybe read up and see, if it is you could be the best thing for her no matter what she says , women say things they dont mean but she'll be heart broken,she wont show it like i neevr do but inside they are screaming out.
I hate seeing stories go bad so maybe try and tak and tread the water a bit first if she thinks you will just run after the commitments etc and saying you should go then she will think even if i asked him to stay he wouldnt be worth it if he will just run anytime.

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I read her reply, couldnt be arsed to read the rest, if what she said was true, then ... ul