help............i,m in love but it,s toooo scarey.why am i too afraid of love, and how do you deal with it?

friendship -> love -> intimacy -> love

Go to a brothel. If you skip to the end, everything else will fill in eventually.

*I take no responsibility for poor advise

that,s no answer. love is the most important thing in life . with brothels there are no feelings or emotions just lust. don,t get me wrong . i think that brothels are good if that,s what you want,but nut for me. I,M ALIVE AND FEELING IT TOO.BUT THANKS FOR YOUR UNHELPFUL ADVICE

THANKS U4RIC, you seem more sensible than the other replier(forgotten his name).

I think anyone who has been hurt in the past is afraid of love and afraid to let those feelings show. Its the fear of rejection. But if you're sure of the other persons feelings than there can't be anything to be afraid of?

Lets face it, you have nothing to lose, except a few days/weeks of feeling lonely, lost and unloved but they do pass, honestly

And then you pick yourself up and move on.

thanks bexbex, i think maybe i am afraid of rejection. how do you deal with it...........any advice

I don't have the answer to that one i'm afraid, Max. It's just a chance you take when you fall in love. You hope the other person thinks enough about you not to send you packing. But if they do, do what you need to, to get you through....listen to a few sad songs, eat lots of Ben & Jerry's Chocolate Fudge ice cream, drink a few bottles of wine......and then get up the next morning and shout "NEXT!"

Onwards and upwards is my favourite saying, never give up cause there is someone out there for everyone, and if they reject you then they weren't the right person for you.....and get yourself back out there.

Probably not much help but thats my advice

thanks, all i,m feeling better already, perhaps i,m just confused and need a bit of advice. i know i need to be stronger to my new partner(i,ve only made one slip-up but i disguised it as a misunderstanding.........phew!)and as i chat here with all you advisers i get more wise and need to adhere it to my emotions and insecurities.............love it ........go give me more tips ...........now i,m a little excited !. give me more ,more more ...............please lol

dont be so pushe just relax and let the things happen time isit an issue with fate ,so waiting works well,also think be4 u act or say , if your going to make a jester then do it in a gd way and not a bad way

i cant give u everythink u have to work things out on u own for the relationship to work

yes thanks redhotline,i won,t make a joke of it, i will seriously take on board all advice(good advice that is)i just needed to understand the confused emotions that i felt. becaus i haven,t loved like this snce i was a teenager, and then it really hurt, so i avoided attractive women because i couldn,t g through that terrible ai again. but alas love has dealt me another hand, and this time i must play to win, in a sensible manner cheers!

np matey

well my girlfriend rang me just before this post and asked me to take her out tomorrow.and because of the goooooooood advice you guys gave me, i told her that ,iv,e already made plans to see friends, (which is abolutly true) "whatever "she replied. anyway i,m not playing games with her head honestly,but you guys helped me to not be at her beck and call, and to be strong. well, without any regret to my answer i feel happier in telling her i,m not available tomorrow .already i feel stronger in my mind and in control of my own life. this is a new relationship, and my first step in getting better at it !...........i said i,ll take her out on tuesday instead. "whatever" she said again. i won,t play games with people, but iwill carry on seeing friends as per usual(obviously not as much because i need to set aside some time for usto be together. anyway thanks guys .........i think i just needed a bit of a kick up the arse thanks all

why not take her out with u and ur friends and a goodstart