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14.06.2007, 13:43 quote

pasleptsiekare

samatron wrote:
PasleptSiekare wrote:
According to my friends, you're meant to be single for half the amount of time you were in your last relationship for.


My five yearer finished two years ago.
Great, that explains why I haven't had even a snog with anyone in the past two years!
Only six months to go....

I've had opportunities from people I've found totally unattractive, not noticed that people I've found attractive are into me, and managed to blow it with people who I've decided to go for.
How crap am I? lol Laughing


Poor you! ...well, if you're ever in Nottingham..... Wink Embarassed

Like I said, I think my mates talk a load of crap anyway!

 

16.06.2007, 07:26 quote

minijellytot

I hope so otherwise im gonna be on my own for 2and a half years lol

 

16.06.2007, 14:57 quote

irishlgirl74
irishlgirl74 Joined: 15 Jan 2007 Posts: 1444 Location: United Kingdom, Northern Ireland, Down
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jes if this is try i need 2 be on my own for 7 and a half bloody long years lol

 

16.06.2007, 15:34 quote

shirazkhan
shirazkhan Joined: 28 Jan 2007 Posts: 1166 Location: United Kingdom, Scotland, Glasgow
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jsut curious (maybe i should change my name to that) but does it really matter to know how soon you may or may not be falling for someone?
people crash out of really good relationships in a really bad way and can take ages to realise they need to be back with someone.
what we all like is the sensation of falling in love. the whole i love you phase jumps the motors faster than anything.

way i see it - its something like this.

you meet someone for the first time, and you find out from someone that they like you - or you spend a "moment" that lasts ages. you hear the words i like you and you flip - you go completely mental.

you return a few calls, spend some time getting accquainted with them - grow with them and spend those wonderful days where even the soggiest of thundershowers feels like a blessing in disguise. some how the i like you turns into i like you a lot or even i love you
boom. kapow. you are in heaven. nothing else matters

suddenly i like you doesnt cut it anymore.
you need the other three words. very soon that i love you turns into - how much do you love me? and questions of that order. soon the incessant demands for this same query start to pile and someone gives way.
it soon becomes you dont say it as much or i hate you and your carefully constructed love falls into disrepair.

moral of the story?

never, ever lose faith in the power of "i like you" - its that first feeling that always keeps us coming back for more.

but this is just my opinion

 

16.06.2007, 16:05 quote

scubawallace

shirazkhan wrote:
but this is just my opinion


sounded just a little bit negative dude? I like the phrase 'I love you' as I like the feelings I have that make me feel like saying it.

as for wait half the time you were together - I think this is probably true up to a year or two, I was a bit over 10 years and I know after a year I was still getting over it, getting her out of my system. I started dating the second year and had two short relationships but I know my ex was still in the back of my mind and that felt a little uncomfortable...

 

16.06.2007, 17:32 quote

Anonymous

PasleptSiekare wrote:
According to my friends, you're meant to be single for half the amount of time you were in your last relationship for.

For example..if you were together 2 years, you're meant to be single for a year..mainly because:
a) It gives you time to get over them
b) To make sure the 'rebound' thing doesn't happen.

Personally, I think it's a load of bullshit Laughing


You're right Laura it is a load of bullshit...every ones different as is every relationship.

 

16.06.2007, 17:54 quote

pasleptsiekare

Jeggea wrote:
PasleptSiekare wrote:
According to my friends, you're meant to be single for half the amount of time you were in your last relationship for.

For example..if you were together 2 years, you're meant to be single for a year..mainly because:
a) It gives you time to get over them
b) To make sure the 'rebound' thing doesn't happen.

Personally, I think it's a load of bullshit Laughing


You're right Laura it is a load of bullshit...every ones different as is every relationship.


Exactly.

 

17.06.2007, 22:04 quote

shirazkhan
shirazkhan Joined: 28 Jan 2007 Posts: 1166 Location: United Kingdom, Scotland, Glasgow
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scubawallace wrote:


sounded just a little bit negative dude? I like the phrase 'I love you' as I like the feelings I have that make me feel like saying it.


it wasnt negative - i just meant to say that sometimes people forget the feelings they got when they said that they liked someone one - when you start forgetting that feeling - you tend to take it for granted. all i want to say is dont take it for granted.

i like saying those three magic words too- its a unique feeling you get from it.

 
 
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