i know

they say you should be single for 1 month per year you dated someone and maybe an extra, that way you can find out who you are as after a relationship you are a new person.

rebounds can work out but only if there was something and it wasnt forced.

I'm not all that long out of a relationship, one that lasted almost 2 years, and I'm in no hurry whatsoever to go getting serious with anyone right now. I'm just focusing on myself and things I want to do, but also trying to remain open to an interesting person that might change my mind.

YEAH THAT IS DEFINATELY TRUE, WHY IS IT THAT WOMEN FIND YOU ATTRACTIVE WHEN YOUR ATTACHED??

Ive just split with my Gf of 3 years its not been nearly two months and im in a similar problem.
I have met this girl who is completely me but in female form and with enough differences to be interesting.
we have seen each other pretty much every day or every other day for the last 2 months.
She says she likes me but wants to be just friends at the moment and to be honest I think she is enjoying playing the field at the moment.

I think its a good idea just to be mates but the problem is that how do you stop yourself doing the OMG shes really cute I like her must have her blah blah blah..Oh crap shes dating one of my mates.. type thing..

Single for at least 6 months I think unless something else comes up..

Well I am a 25 single mom of a 3 yr old, been only single 2 months ending a 5 yr relationship. I have a hard time figureing out what I am wanting. I not only am suffering from being lonely but I have a child to think about its going to be hard to get into the dating habit with a 3 yr old wondering around trying to figure out what's going on.

According to my friends, you're meant to be single for half the amount of time you were in your last relationship for.

For example..if you were together 2 years, you're meant to be single for a year..mainly because:
a) It gives you time to get over them
b) To make sure the 'rebound' thing doesn't happen.

Personally, I think it's a load of bullshit

Bullshit motion agreed and seconded..
It doesnt matter how long it takes you to get over a relationship as long as you feel comfortable going into a new one then go for it...why the hell should you wait half the time that you were with someone to get over them..

My 20-year marriage came to a final, amicable halt just over a year ago.

I saw it coming, and decided that I would keep myself to myself until I learned how to make a fresh start for myself.

So, no, I didn't go rebounding into the nearest pub,but used the time to get a few things sorted out and to learn more about myself as a single individual.

It's been rough and lonely at times, I'll admit, but at least I've kept my own identity and not found myself suddenly bound to a new stranger.

During the past year, I've indulged in a few nerdy hobbies, met new people, got promoted, joined a few boards and addressed some issues from my past. It's been sort of cathartic.

tim

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