if you met somebody pretty quickly after a bad relationship that was doomed to end and had been going bad for the last yr= or so do you think it could work or would it just b a rebound thing?

well anybodys views would b kool right now

Ive been out of relationships for that long now Loubs that i dont think my view would count and to be honest i dont know

I totally think you need to give it a chance to work, and possibly learn from previous mistakes

its been two year now and i want to start dating ijust get thrown towards men who got baggage

bless you louby i'd been seperated 9 years ... (dated a few bams in between ) your time will come

thanks claudia i sure hope so i do deserve it

When I seperated from my ex-wife 5yrs ago I pretty much went straight into a new relationship within weeks of seperating but it only lasted a month I know now that if it ever happened again I would definately wait, it just won't work jumping straight into a new relationship.

Ive been seperated from my ex for nearly 3 years now, since we have split i have had a few relationships,all with men that are useless and not good for me at all. I think i should have waited as now i have had a longish break from men, i now know what i want and dont want.... I think jumping straight in to a relationship from another is not a good thing as you havnt had time to enjoy your own time and space.[/quote]

I know what you are saying is bang on but I get so lonely without a man lol i keep saying im gonna have time with just me and the kids (and dogs,birds) but it only lasts a couple weeks and I want someone to love me. boo hoo poor me lol

Hi Everybody
If you look for my recent threads on the forums you will be able to piece together some information in relation to my previous relationship. When it ended in early march I was still gutted and a week later I started looking again (i.e when I joined here). Looking back now it seems better that I havent found someone at that time until now as it would have definetly been a rebound thing-replacing a relationship with a new one. Now I feel that I have got over it all and recovered and now anything new wont be a rebound thing. You cant turn off feelings for someone like a lightswitch it takes time to get things clear in the mind, think, get it all out your system and feel emotionally stable before starting something new without the old partner still in your mind. Sometimes your heart may be somewhere else and thats no good for anyone-simply that is not fair one bit. Now I feel ready to find someone new-any takers?! Clear mind and all!

I have learnt we all have a past, and some of us have some baggage and things happen in the past some of which we cant and can control. If your looking for someone and something that is perfect with a perfect past your not gonna find it.
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