How do you feel when you have lost the one or when you think/know someone's the one?

I mean, I don't believe in ONEs, lol, except for number ones , but I just figured I should ask as curiosity.

Does anyone think they met the one and have lost them or they met the one and never had a chance at being with them and such?

Is this ONE a creation of one's mind or a real thing?

Too many questions, I'm sure, but I'd like to find out what y'all think about this ONE.

I remember some poster once said something like: That's how it feels to lose the one. And another poster said: I hope that ain't true.

Well... Any thoughts?
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i'd like to believe there is a ONE, for everyone, but quite honestly i doubt there really is. The infamous 'they' say there are no two people alike, if such is the case, then there can be no ONE that is often refered to !

Strange that thinking about there being 'one' person meant for me makes me wonder where she is.. why i haven't found her yet and where i should be looking, when 90% of the people who i've blatantly whinged at because i'm single normally say "if you stop looking, you're bound to find her"

I'm confusing myself now, but i think that kinda maybe sort of makes sense a bit ?
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I have had a few that could have been 'the one', but I've never given them the chance. Probably starting with my mates sister.

But I tend to have the habit of hijacking things with women that I like. I'm getting the urge of doing it to a women on another site.

Thats why I'll end up being a lonely old man

But in the past, I have had mates who have found 'the one'...but most of them are divorced now

You people didn't understand a thing. =))))))))
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Give us a few more clues!
I don't know if this topic really was by you...
Where are all the exclamations marks?
Where's the 'par example'?
This is one possible take on 'the one'...
The out-and-out love fanatics will say that the only reason you don’t believe in ‘the one’ is because you haven’t met ‘the one’ yet! They’ll say, ‘Once you do, you’ll know.’ They’ll sound sad when they tell you this, like you’ve been diagnosed with something, but it is curable! Or you’ve been unlucky and not been touched by some magic. They may be talking a load of bollocks, of course, but that doesn’t mean they don’t believe it. Because believing and being touched are, I think, the keys to understanding this.
Believing you’ve found ‘the one’ is a self-induced delusional state, brought about by falling in love. The latter being nature’s way of cloaking the mind to allow for some serious rutting and maybe a bit of procreation – so you don’t let mundane things, like friends and family, work, money, housing conditions, the economy, or even eating and drinking, etc interfere with this important (essentially self-serving) activity.
While in this state people survive wars or illnesses, etc to get to, or get back to, ‘the one’. They’ll walk 100s of miles, swim icy rivers, run up and down mountains, to be under the clock at 3:30 just to be with ‘the one’.
(Smartly dressed, with the chocolates and flowers! )
In extreme cases, it can be so powerful that it seems more important than life itself.
Later, if the magic wears off, ‘the one’ may become ‘that one’ or 'you bastard' and you will (like some of your friends and family) think, ‘What the fuck did I ever see in him anyway?‘
Or, ‘God! What happened? A madness took me!’
In the worst cases (or the best cases, if you’re a fanatic) the magic never wears off and you live happily and die in this delusional state. (With a half a dozen sprogs carrying your coffin.)
What you may have, at the moment, is your head (intellect) battling with your heart (emotions) – and maybe other parts of your anatomy - in trying to justify logically something it can never understand in a million years, because it came to the party quite a few million years too late!
Logically you’ll say, ‘Why this one anymore than that one?’ Or, ‘With all the millions of ones, there must be more than one one, right?’ Don’t go down those dark, labyrinthine caverns! Twisting and turning... Don’t listen to that little voice!
Pay no attention to the little person behind the curtain!
(BTW – You could probably substitute God, the Labour Party, democracy, ManU, etc, etc if required.)
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PMSL Handsel. Very nice.
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Handsel rocks

i like this question because it bring's up a lot of fundamental questions about the meaning of romance, relationships, emotions and closeness


...i have met loads of women i thought/ hoped were the one, often a lot younger than me, unfortunately for me.

some from salsa classes, some from martial arts (who were just very touchy/ feely and really already had same age partners they were happy with.

one who does stick in my mind was someone i met at a part time Uni course in April and June 2008.

i am not kidding - i truthfully believed she was the one..we were the same age too, i sensed (wrongly i think) that she liked me as much as i liked her

she had a fairly similar personality to me, simliar body language, similar tastes... i gave her my phone number expecting her to ring and she never did..

i pretended (her not phoning me) was nothing and that i did not care but it has haunted me ever since i talked to her, i believed she was a match made in heaven..

Maybe she lost your number and couldnt ring you?