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30.06.2008, 21:19 quote

s6boystu
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rocketgirl wrote:

Biggest puzzle for me is this:
Why are you only suddenly interested in her just cuz someone told you she's interested in you?
Would it not be better to go for a gal who actually caught your eye, all by yourself?
One who doesnt know your bank details etc. in case she turns out to be a bunny boiler or worse....


suddenly interested would be because i've only been working there 6 weeks..and she's only just started dealing with my paper-work, hence at best i'd of only seen her as i was running through the office as the last 5 weeks have been total chaos, being as things are starting to calm down i can take my time, i had noticed her (hard not to sometimes Embarassed ) if she turns out to be a bunny boiler.. well, she pulled my file - she'll be getting the sack Wink
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30.06.2008, 21:38 quote

rocketgirl

s6boystu wrote:
rocketgirl wrote:

Biggest puzzle for me is this:
Why are you only suddenly interested in her just cuz someone told you she's interested in you?
Would it not be better to go for a gal who actually caught your eye, all by yourself?
One who doesnt know your bank details etc. in case she turns out to be a bunny boiler or worse....


suddenly interested would be because i've only been working there 6 weeks..and she's only just started dealing with my paper-work, hence at best i'd of only seen her as i was running through the office as the last 5 weeks have been total chaos, being as things are starting to calm down i can take my time, i had noticed her (hard not to sometimes Embarassed ) if she turns out to be a bunny boiler.. well, she pulled my file - she'll be getting the sack Wink


The only thing I'll say is about that last bit. Dont kid yourself. Working in the office, she probably has full access to your file to 'pull' any time she chooses, which wont be a sack-able offence. And she's probably better buddy-buddies with the boss than you are too.....Its what she might do with the knowledge gleaned from said file if things go tits up between you........You dont think i just have a wild imagination do you?! (because i dont).

Are you saying you would allow her to break company rules and 'pull' your file if she's a hot mamma, if she isnt or she turns you down or gets nasty when you dump her, you will suddenly tell the boss she broke company rules 'pulling' your file?
Surprised That sounds like double standards just to get a shag......... Surprised Surprised Surprised

 

01.07.2008, 09:05 quote

jeggae

My first thought was what moose and RG said. Be cautious when getting involved with women at work..unless you really like her rather then just lust after her. Not sure how much you like her, as you havent worked there long and havent got to know her. But if you like her go for it. No one that likes you is out of your league.

But I've turned down some stunning women I've worked with in jobs I've liked, because I didn't want the problems that could occur. Including 'quick ones' in the toilets

But if you dont really care about the job, then go for it.

 

01.07.2008, 09:47 quote

choochi0

I know you say you have trouble talking to women, but I think you might just have to talk to this one a little bit before you go for the plunge and ask her out!!

I am notorious for having my head up in the clouds so much that I have been known to completely fail to notice when a perfectly decent guy likes me and is making an obvious show of it.

Make a point of saying hello to her and asking her how she is. Strike up a conversation when you pop into the office and see how you like her, You may find out from this that she is not your type or a potential 'bunny boiler' and then you can stop stressing about her and relax. If you find you do like her personality then you can get to the stage of worrying whether to ask her out.

Of course if she is anything like me you might have to shake her a few times so she knows what you are getting at!

 

01.07.2008, 15:20 quote

redelicious
redelicious Joined: 19 Feb 2008 Posts: 1609 Location: United Kingdom, England, Lincolnshire
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We're all great at giving advice Stu, but in the end you're the only one that can make that disision (spelling?).

Like romances everywhere, some work, some don't whether you've met them at work or in a pub or bumped into them in a bus stop or met them through a dating site.

A coffee over lunch or a drink down the pub... real bunny boilers are few and far between... so what you got to lose?
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01.07.2008, 15:38 quote

s6boystu
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intersting day at work today... she email'd me asking me what i was doing saturday night.. so um.. i'm now kinda nervous but it appears we're going out for a drink !! Cool

i appreciate all the advise, but what's a drink between colleagues - apart from a good oportunity to get to know someone !
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If there really is to be a soul mate out there, I think your soul mates are those people who make you feel at home, wherever you are. That hearing their voices and knowing they're close to you (even if in thought) makes you feel at ease.

 

01.07.2008, 21:23 quote

jeggae

s6boystu wrote:
intersting day at work today... she email'd me asking me what i was doing saturday night.. so um.. i'm now kinda nervous but it appears we're going out for a drink !! Cool

i appreciate all the advise, but what's a drink between colleagues - apart from a good oportunity to get to know someone !


Well done and good luck mate Smile

seems she might not be out of your league

 

02.07.2008, 00:34 quote

choochi0

jeggae wrote:
s6boystu wrote:
intersting day at work today... she email'd me asking me what i was doing saturday night.. so um.. i'm now kinda nervous but it appears we're going out for a drink !! Cool

i appreciate all the advise, but what's a drink between colleagues - apart from a good oportunity to get to know someone !


Well done and good luck mate Smile

seems she might not be out of your league


Good luck from me too. I hope you have a great time!

 

08.07.2008, 18:54 quote

s6boystu
s6boystu Joined: 06 Mar 2008 Posts: 3122 Location: United Kingdom, England, Essex
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well we definately had fun that's for sure, however i think we're goin more along the lines of friends with extra's for a while ( her ex keeps harassing her and i don't wanna get in their way )
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If there really is to be a soul mate out there, I think your soul mates are those people who make you feel at home, wherever you are. That hearing their voices and knowing they're close to you (even if in thought) makes you feel at ease.

 

08.07.2008, 19:43 quote

choochi0

s6boystu wrote:
( her ex keeps harassing her and i don't wanna get in their way )


Keep as far out of that as you can. It can only get messy.

 

08.07.2008, 19:52 quote

rocketgirl

As long as she's not actually still with said ex, and you are 'the extras'. Hope it turns out well for you Stu.

 

09.07.2008, 21:16 quote

bliss23

choochi0 wrote:
s6boystu wrote:
( her ex keeps harassing her and i don't wanna get in their way )


Keep as far out of that as you can. It can only get messy.


Isn't Essex close to Sussex? Sorry... My geography is crap... But if it gets messy maybe Choochiouuuuuu could show up with her baton and teach him a lesson.

I'm sorry Choochio, but apart from the "Choochiooooooooo" I keep on seeing your baton each time you speak of the forces. Very Happy

 

09.07.2008, 23:57 quote

choochi0

Bliss23 wrote:

I'm sorry Choochio, but apart from the "Choochiooooooooo" I keep on seeing your baton each time you speak of the forces. Very Happy


Is that just police forces or magical forces!!!

 

29.07.2008, 15:07 quote

leglover38

hmmm, wondering if stu actually asked her out ?

 

29.07.2008, 15:15 quote

cmiso

no, she asked him.

 
 
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