Ok I'll be the one to say these two things...
1. If you think she's out of your league, sure she doesnt agree? If she just fancies 'slumming it' dont go there.
2. Think ahead, if it dont work out, she turns you down, you end up having a bad break up.....You gonna be ready to up sticks and leave your job without giving notice?

What puzzles me is this Stu.
Judging from what I understand what you said in your opening post - you had not considered this woman 'date material' until someone told you she'd pulled your file?
Did she do this to discover more about you cuz she's interested in dating you?
AND did she *make sure* someone told you?
OR - did the boss ask her to check summat else about you,
Or did some bozo lie about her checking up on you to make you look stupid when you ask her out?
How well do you know the other onsite/offsite staff?

Biggest puzzle for me is this:
Why are you only suddenly interested in her just cuz someone told you she's interested in you?
Would it not be better to go for a gal who actually caught your eye, all by yourself?
One who doesnt know your bank details etc. in case she turns out to be a bunny boiler or worse....

My first thought was what moose and RG said. Be cautious when getting involved with women at work..unless you really like her rather then just lust after her. Not sure how much you like her, as you havent worked there long and havent got to know her. But if you like her go for it. No one that likes you is out of your league.

But I've turned down some stunning women I've worked with in jobs I've liked, because I didn't want the problems that could occur. Including 'quick ones' in the toilets

But if you dont really care about the job, then go for it.

As long as she's not actually still with said ex, and you are 'the extras'. Hope it turns out well for you Stu.

Sorry to hear it didnt work out for you Stu.
Depends on what went wrong, and why you are still single, but a shrink you most prolly dont need, sounds like it simply didnt work out, these things happen!
Better luck next time! x

Ah. Well, depending on what that perceived 'fault' was (and no I'm not nosey enough to ask!) if you think long and hard and agree it was your fault, use that to learn from your mistake next time, or take it with a pinch of salt, people are often good at blaming the other person when they want out!! and dont carry it around as your personal burden.

Hey Stu - I had a baaaaaaaad feeling about this one right from the start - as you may have noticed!


Sounds like she ain't changed since last september - gosh nearly a year ago, why is she suddenly flirting with you again?

Her so-called 'test' and blaming you for failing it, is one of the oldest tricks in the book - give her a wide berth, get out more and meet someone else!