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30.06.2008, 18:44 quote

s6boystu
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not really sure if this is the right section but i'm sure one of the moderator team will yell at me if it isn't !!

basicly.. there's a lady at work, she works in the office and i'm based mostly off-site so i only really 'see' her when i go in to pick up work orders or drop off job sheets etc, however.. through the "grape vine" i've heard that she's interested in knowing more ( apparently she pulled my personel file to check up on me Laughing ) i think she looks alright, but the thing is.. looks aren't everything right? can i seriously take the first step and ask her out on a date.. going purely by her looks ?

There's also the point that she's like... totally out of my 'league' if ya like and i have absolutely no idea why she'd be interested in me, after all, i'm just the lowly forklift driver / store supervisor and she's office staff - kinda like beauty and the beast !

if that doesn't make sense.. er.. welcome to my world ? it makes sense in my head Confused
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30.06.2008, 19:01 quote

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Just take a chance Stu...what have you got to lose???? Try and get to know her a wee bit better before you do though
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30.06.2008, 19:08 quote

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Stu, why do you say she is out of your league ??? If she likes you, go for it ........ you have nothing to loose .......

 

30.06.2008, 19:19 quote

darkhorse57

You actually came here to *ask* that??

Out of your league? Get a bloody move on, y’daft bugger…..(or as grooveme would say, get a shifty on )

 

30.06.2008, 19:33 quote

s6boystu
s6boystu Joined: 06 Mar 2008 Posts: 1996 Location: United Kingdom, England, Essex
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lol what do i have to loose.. i have to go into that office maybe 5 - 6 times a day, how can i go in there if i make myself look like even more of a moron than i do normally ? !!

i know it sounds silly, but i feel just like a school kid all over again Embarassed
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30.06.2008, 19:48 quote

rocketgirl
Joined: 17 Jun 2008 Posts: 863 Location: United Kingdom, England, Hampshire
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Ok I'll be the one to say these two things...
1. If you think she's out of your league, sure she doesnt agree? If she just fancies 'slumming it' dont go there.
2. Think ahead, if it dont work out, she turns you down, you end up having a bad break up.....You gonna be ready to up sticks and leave your job without giving notice?

 

30.06.2008, 19:53 quote

s6boystu
s6boystu Joined: 06 Mar 2008 Posts: 1996 Location: United Kingdom, England, Essex
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rocketgirl wrote:
Ok I'll be the one to say these two things...
1. If you think she's out of your league, sure she doesnt agree? If she just fancies 'slumming it' dont go there.
2. Think ahead, if it dont work out, she turns you down, you end up having a bad break up.....You gonna be ready to up sticks and leave your job without giving notice?


1 - dunno ?

2 - wouldn't be the first time i've quit.. but that's for a different post.. when i'm ready to talk about it ! Evil or Very Mad

so i guess the easiest option would be to just wait a while.. if she's that interested.. she'll ask me ? or not ? Confused
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30.06.2008, 20:01 quote

CMISO
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s6boystu wrote:
i know it sounds silly, but i feel just like a school kid all over again Embarassed


Well pull her hair and call her names then, that's the school way isn't it?
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30.06.2008, 20:02 quote

s6boystu
s6boystu Joined: 06 Mar 2008 Posts: 1996 Location: United Kingdom, England, Essex
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actually i was thinking more along the lines of the bike shed but we won't go there Wink Laughing


seriously though, some of you may already know that i have serious problems about talking to women - i turn into captain jelly baby ! Confused
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30.06.2008, 20:04 quote

CMISO
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First thing to do is find out if you actually like her enough to worry about it isn't it?

Thus far you don't sound convinced.
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30.06.2008, 20:05 quote

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I know a lot of women who still wouldn't ask a guy out, and I don't just mean my generation, so I do think you may have to do that and not wait for her if you want to go on a date.

She may feel that she's done her groundwork by making sure you knew she was interestd.

As for 'out of your league' just don't go there to even start thinking that way Stu
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30.06.2008, 20:06 quote

s6boystu
s6boystu Joined: 06 Mar 2008 Posts: 1996 Location: United Kingdom, England, Essex
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lol the only thing i know about her is her name and that she's miiiiiiighty pretty oh and she sorts my paperwork out for me Embarassed

she know's bloody everythin about me from my date of birth to my bank details.. Surprised bloody hell... women do work fast don't they.. Laughing

i might just invite her out for a casual drink after work on friday or something..
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30.06.2008, 20:16 quote

rocketgirl
Joined: 17 Jun 2008 Posts: 863 Location: United Kingdom, England, Hampshire
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What puzzles me is this Stu.
Judging from what I understand what you said in your opening post - you had not considered this woman 'date material' until someone told you she'd pulled your file?
Did she do this to discover more about you cuz she's interested in dating you?
AND did she *make sure* someone told you?
OR - did the boss ask her to check summat else about you,
Or did some bozo lie about her checking up on you to make you look stupid when you ask her out?
How well do you know the other onsite/offsite staff?

Biggest puzzle for me is this:
Why are you only suddenly interested in her just cuz someone told you she's interested in you?
Would it not be better to go for a gal who actually caught your eye, all by yourself?
One who doesnt know your bank details etc. in case she turns out to be a bunny boiler or worse....

 

30.06.2008, 20:18 quote

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Bad idea getting involved with people at work, IMO
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30.06.2008, 20:23 quote

rocketgirl
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moose666 wrote:
Bad idea getting involved with people at work, IMO


Yup seen it end up shite for everyone who you both work with, way too many times.....that's why i'm trying to put him off!

 
 
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