Most people don't 'do' closure/endings terribly well. Think funerals, job loss, amputation, the list is endless. I think its because its natural that we dont usually have a plan of action (as it were) for how we are going to cope with the aftermath, no one no matter how hard they try can truly shut off their emotions and be detached - even detachment is an emotion. Breaking up has got to be just about up there with having your leg sawn off with a blunt teaspoon.

But would Plan B not be just a sticking plaster in the short term?

Not rambling manofmayo. I understood (sort of) what you were saying.
My instant thought of what you meant by plan B was in a sense to maybe jump right into another relationship so you didnt have to sit at home crying in yer beer...thats what i meant by a sticking plaster which in the long term never heals a festering open wound....Ultimately I guess the *only* way to deal with a break-up is to face up to it and deal with it, then move on......which is where it all becomes oh so comlicated cuz we don't have a manual or rule book to tell us how to do it surgically and swiftly!

I definately know how you are feeling Tim.

I was in a relationship with my ex for nearly a year when she just upped and dumped me, stopped contacting me until a month later (Valentine day) i found out that she was actually cheating on me and that she already have done things with him which led me to believe that she didn't care about me at all which put me in a very deep state of depression for few months but I was begging her to take me back.

I was telling her that she is still the one for me and that she's my true love no matter what she have done to me because no pain that she caused me can compare the love I have got for her.

Few months later, here I am, still fighting to have her back because I will never give up until I have her back as my girl.

Sazo..(Waiting..)

I think, If you love someone that much, you will never stop loving them - rather love them in a different kind of way, like your best friend or dog or what-ever. Love is a very powerful thing after all.
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