i was with my last girlfriend for almost 8 months, and she seemed happy with me, she used to text me sweet things then my nan went away and i couldnt go round hers cus i had to look after the dogs cus ones epileptic. at the end of the week she text me saying she wanted a break and i told her how i felt and i respected her desition but i would still love her and be there for her no matter what, then a few hours later she dumped me over text.

her reason was im to nice and to good for her and she needed a change.

the week before she text me saying she didnt want to loose me and wanted to be wiith me for ever and marry me and have kids with me. so how did it go from that to dumping me within 7 days??? i didnt do anything and we didnt argue.

my question is what do you think i should do and what are you thoughts on what happened?

p.s she wont talk to me face to face or on the phone,

my iitial reaction is you probably are too good for her and if she that fickle with your feelings you are best off out of it forget her and move on

man thats sucks big time im really sorry to her that. My thoughts on this situation reading what you put Somehing has changed in those 7 days..i couldnt possibly comment on what though. The things that strike me is the whole dumping over text thing..now you say she cared for you...well if she did then she would of done it face to face.

Now im not trying to sound as though she took the wimps way out but looking back over it? dont you think you deserved that at least?. I had the same thing happen to me by my ex few months ago she text me saying she needed a break..i get back from being away a day and a half and shes with someone else..anyway thats me and her and not you and your gf.

What to do next? well what do you want to do?..if she doesnt want to talk to you then i guess you will have to agree to it. Even if your not happy about it

ok you want to talk to her and salvage something...i dont think any amount of talking will change her mind

i think if you really need to tell her how you feel then you should send her one text explaining your feelings. if she doesn't reply to that then leave it and move on. you can't force somebody to be with you if she doesn't want to be. it will get better just give it time.

yea its just annoying how it all happened. and i expect i was ditched for another guy... although she didnt say she was as i asked her directly if that was the case.

maybe im a fool but i fort love was worth trying for.

well yeah so did i...best thing is to take some time out and figure out what you want..i agree i thought love was worth fighting for but if only one of you is puting the effort in then theres no point to it really..it will take time but move on and put it down to experience..
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Just reading the initial post, it sounds as though she got the impression that you were not going to, and didn't want to fight for the relationship. Maybe if you'd had a real argument with her...I don't know. Sometimes women are just batshit insane.

Women. You can't live with them, go to jail if you shoot them.

It seems to me that she used a different version of a well known line "It isn't you, it's me". We all use this line when we don't want to hurt the other person and want them to think that we are the one at fault.

She needs her space. There just might be another guy on the scene but it's just as likely that there isn't. Don't push things. Don't contact her. I known it's difficult just to switch off and I'm not saying you should or suggesting you can. What I'm saying is that you must take a step back.

Good luck!!!

Same as what everyone else has said really.

Just leave it, I've been there and not left it and it makes things a million times worse. Well sometimes it did, sometimes it didn't but eventually did make things worse.

Recently had a shit break-up and we were supposed to be friends, then within 2 weeks she had a new boyfriend who she is now madly in love with (after about a month). Then she decided to stop talking to me over basically nothing. She makes me laugh really. So I just leave it now, no point even getting into petty arguments over what really is nothing, was an 18 month relationship but it went crap and we split. These things happen.

Live and learn and move on!

its best to do nothing. either she'll come back regretting her actions or she won't. my ex kind of did the same to me. although at least she phoned but it was 24 hours b4 she was supposed to coming to see me. suddenly over and she couldnt say why. people would say she did know why but didnt want to hurt me but she is the sort of person that wont think about stuff. I mean being too scared to look inside. So like if she's unhappy about something, which in retrospect she clearly was, she wont deal with it until it builds up and she can't take it anymore.
The irony of the situation is she didnt seem relieved at all, infact the complete opposite. Anyone would think I'd broken up with her. She was in a "ive broken it and dont know how to fix it" state. I did try to get her to talk about it but she wouldnt but at the same time wanted to be friends and still communicate. In the end I had to leave her to her own devices and not speak very often.

Putting myself in a position of strength seems to have done the trick as she wants to see me again and that gives me leverage to try and sort out why this happened and how to fix it as she freely admits that she hasnt stopped loving me. She is an honest and open person so I know when she tells me she hasnt been with anyone else its true and the the conversation that went she's been telling her friends how much she misses me, and they're asking why she doing this and she's telling them she doesnt know, is also true.
Well anyways im being careful about letting my emotions run off and get too hopeful as its all very tricky when dealing with someone who doesnt know their own mind properly. And no matter how much I really want to be back with her got to maintain the position of strength.

the moral of this story is put yourself in the position of strength. its good for you mentally and tell yourself and everyone else that you may still love her but if she wont be reasonable its her loss. The only hope you have is for this to get back to her and the perception is you're the strong one.

A note on being nice.
Being nice tends to mean laid back and laid back tends to mean going along with stuff which sometimes means compromising your independence for someone else. This creates an incorrect perception that we're weak. Which is often wrong as when we're bothered about stuff we wont stand for it but its nails in coffins if this perception gets too pervasive.

it occurs to me just now that the reason why good looking women want "bad boys" is their natural ability to maintain independence and at times indifference. This makes the woman who know's she's good looking and can have a strong personality have to work for it. There can be only one strong person in a relationship at any one time. I imagine lasting relationships are where there's a status quo either one is naturally dominant and the other naturally submissive (my parents seem like this) or there's a balance.

it further occurs to me my relationship partially went pear shapped because I stopped being independent enough and kept defering to her whims, at a time when situations changed. There's a reasonable chance If I can get her to come and see me and be the strong one and stay independent it'll work out for the best.