Ok, get comfy... methinks this will be a long one...

I'm an 18 year old female who has been involved with women, both on a casual and serious level, whilst I have never sustained a serious relationship with a man.

I have never before felt under this 'personal pressure' to identify as 'one or the other', I have always felt most comfortable claimng to be 'bisexual' - though I'm not an avid fan of labels. I believe you are what you are, and you feel what you feel. Despite this, I'm having great difficulty accepting this at present.

I feel as though I am percieved by most as a 'modern female' who despite finding other women sexually attractive, predominantly finds men to be more attractive. I believe it is only my closest friends who are most accurate, in that they know I absolutely adore women... and simply find men physically attractive.

For me, women are so utterly captivating.. they're all encompassing.. and I feel as though in order to feel truly fufilled and content in my future relationships, they must involve another woman. A woman bears the capacity to render me breathless in one simple look, to connect with me on a level I cannot seem to with a man... and though I am still very young, this is my current state.

When I make love with a woman, to a woman, she is mine.. and I am hers.. it is with my heart that I 'make love to her' and not my mind.. I am lost in the moment, I am not 'in my head'. But with a man, I guess, whilst I reciprocate, I am the sort who would jump out of bed if the phone were to ring.. I feel 'in my head' and as though I am merely 'watching' him.

And this is a little strange for me.. because I don't think I'm asking for advice.. I suppose I just don't know how to handle this dawning reality.. and wondered if anyone (male or female) has ever experienced similar...

Thanks in advance
x

that was a beautiful and enlightening way of describing your feelings i am straight but believe we are all born bisexual and through life experiences choose to stay that way or turn straight or gay whatever sexuality we are its all a natural way of expressing physically our love (or lust!!) for one another, i think you are maybe over analysing it all if it feels right go with the flow so to speak. You dont have to explain or justify who you are to anyone you just simply are you!!!

Thank you so much...

Your thoughts are appreciated They make a whole lot of sense..

x

Would have to agree with that response. Ever Man is 50% woman and vice versa. I don't know why we find it so hard to accept that you can find members of the same sex attractive. It doesn't mean you gay, just balanced! If you can accept that and be happy with who you are then you be fine.

What Dave & Louby said !!

If you're happy with the way your life is then keep going and don't worry about it.. If you're not then the only person who can make a change is you.

Either way, enjoy yourself and keep smiling
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