I'm all for personal freedom. We have just one short life to do everything we want and need and wish to do. I've been in long term relationships and the sex get very boring. I hate that stupid advice about spicing things up by doing different positions etc, the bottom line is, it's still the same person - the person you are bored shitless with. There is so much extramarital sex going on behind partners' backs that it's normal, usual in our society. On a dating site I was on, about 90% of the guys who contacted me were married or cohabiting, and none of their partners knew what they were up to. Business trips, residential courses, everyone is screwing outside of marriage all the time, the ones we know about (get caught, confess) are just the tip of the iceberg, really.And what does it really matter? I've played away and it has helped me to stay in a relationship where the sex is dull and boring.

It's time we as a nation faced up to the fact that almost everyone is unfaithful at some point, and stop getting so darned het up about it - after all, it's only sex!

So is this forum tryn to encourage married ppl to have sex out side then?

im against cheating, theres no need for it, if ur not happy with ur other half then they're not the one for you. i dont believe in love without trust, and for me trust is so hard to rebuild once its been lost. there are always ways to spice up sex if its getting boring, even if u have 2 tie them down and control them, at least that way u can put a mask on them and pretend its someone!!!!
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Heres an opinion from someone who has been cheated on and done the cheating neither makes you feel good and I hope that I never have to go through the trouble it causes again. The guy who cheated on me he told me after we had split up have no idea as otherwise i might have felt happy about the relationship as I ended it when I went to uni. When I cheated or the twice I cheated they were the most stupid things I have done, 1st time with the ex who had cheated on me because I stupidly met up with him and lots of alcohol later (not that that is an excuse!) we nearly had sex but not quite but only because people walked in on us and I came to some senses! this was stupid as really liked the guy I seeing at the time and then I did it to the same guy a couple of months later this was even more stupid as had a three some that involved one of by best friends. i felt terrible after both and for what ever reason teh now ex boyfriend forgave me and we did stay together for over 3 years after all this and he did regain his trust in me but because I knew what I had done I could never completely trust him as I know what people are capable of.

Basically if your the one cheating or the one who has been cheated on you end up feeling shit about it and SHOULD NOT CHEAT therefore!

Well any relationship has to be worked upon. Personally, I only want one person and I don't want to have to share that person. It sounds a bit shelfish like that but its not really. I'm not talking over-protective you can have any friends but the safe knowledge that all that which is more than friendship is between us alone.

I don't *think* I've ever been physically cheated on, although my ex did very quickly disappear off and spend a month in another part of the country with someone after giving up on us..it definately started long before though.

You've just got to be very careful that you get into a relationship with a person who wants what you want and knows how to respect that. Of course you (and sometimes even them) will not always find out until its too late.

Some people have always had affairs. Other people will never even consider it. Either way, it leaves a whole complicated mess and ends up hurting those that don't deserve it.

\\\\\\\the chance would be a fine thing. I'd go for it....life's too short....

Wanting a secret lover and friend. I want genuine passion and some sexcitement...and 40 or 50 something ladies want to spice things up a bit descretely. I'm in West Kent area so SE London, Kent, Surrey etc is fine closer the better so we have lots of time to...........

sex outside of marriage is just making a fool out of yourselves end of!!it means you have no control over your impulses your weak you quite obviously dont love the partner effectively and dont know what your imagination is for just my opiniion but what are fantasies for?Also sex is just sex but to make real love is far more deeply satisfying than any affair of lust i would want to have a monogamous relationship purely because i believe most people these days have lost virginity and like the idea that what i am sharing with my bfriend at that time is sacred and special