The point of this topic is do you feel a relationship can continue once you feel you have lost self-respect in front of the other person? Is it something you can overcome together, or only as an individual? Can it be overcome at all?

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'Lost Self Respect' in what way Andrew ?

I mean when one of the people feel as though they've let themselves down, and they don't feel very good about themselves. Like they have done something they shouldn't or just feel a bit worthless.

The problem may just be in that persons head...they feel that way and its having a negative impact on the relationship. But can these things be overcome together or only apart?
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Well the 'something you shouldn't' is easy, own up, it's the only way in my book, depending on what the person did will depend on your partners reaction, i for one have never lied to anyone and would rather someone tell me what they had done, because quilt can eat away at you.

The other issue is not so easy, feeling worthless etc within yourself is a hard one to overcome, take from one you knows, but if your in a relationship then that person should support you, make you feel good about yourself, which should in turn give you the confidence to actually start liking yourself.

Like it has been said on here a few times,'you have to love yourself before anyone else will'

Beauty come from within, and nobody is perfect, but as long as your honest and communicate with each other on all levels then thats all that matters.

If you're feeling a 'loss of self-respect' my guess is that the problem lies within the other person/s doing or saying something disrespectful, and you 'becoming it' or 'owning it' if that makes sense.

As for resolution of the situation, that would need the other person to be 'up front' and recognise their part within it all, acknowledge it even if they don't feel that they can apologise or see their part.

Sadly it can be a painful lesson in life.
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I would also say make sure your not being TOO hard on yourself,it's all very well to give yourself a kick up the arse now and again but don't punish yourself.

Self-respect is something you can only give and take away yourself nobody else can.

Also realise that making a mistake or doing something you are not proud is something everyone has done and will do and will carry on doing.

The trick is to do it as little as possible and to aknowledge the fact that living is taking chances that don't always work out.

Hear, hear.

self-respect is a very individual thing, and while the actions/attitudes of others do have an impact on it, it's up to the individual concerned to address the issue.

The support of a loved one is fantastic, but ultimately there's only one person that can crawl out of THAT deep, dark hole... I know, done it so many times I'm thinking of having a lift installed !!! lol

As has been said, ..a lack of self respect can be overcome if you are with the right person who can understand what it is you are going through. It’s when you lose respect for the person you are with is when the problem starts. Something that happens frequently with me unfortunately.