Hey all,I have been with my bf over 5months now.Problem is that we had a argument and it involed him hurtin my arm not on perpose,well my mate marched me to the cop station an now i have to tell them whats happened. He most likely just gonna get a caution for it but i wish i had never done it, I no sorry what make it better and he lost trust in me but i love him too bits. can some help me out an give me advice how to win him bk

Thanks all Jo x
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It's meeee lol

Interesting ........ even if he did not hurt you 'on purpose' the row must have been getting physical for him to have hurt your arm.

How did your friend get involved in order for her to drag you along to the police station? Did you tell her? Did she see what had happened? Was your injury so bad that it was obvious to her?

I have no opinion on what you posted as yet - a litle more information maybe?

I was rufusing to leave,yeh was just a bruise she noticed it cause she nosey like tht and i was like nah i dont want to but she did jump to conclusions and dragged me there. He just wanted me to go i was being stupid about it
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It's meeee lol

If it was really an accident in that nothing was intentional at all and you went to the cops and reported him and the cops ended up questioning him then I'd tell you to get stuffed to be honest - I'd be not only humiliated but think you're a freako. Hard one to judge on what you've said so far though.

You can't blame your mate though.

you could go back to the police n talk to them about this also let him know you been to the police and if he wants you back kool if not its a lesson to be learnt

If you were refusing to leave after he asked you to go and thats the reason your arm got hurt, aint that a sign that he doesnt want you though??

Situations like this get very complicated & out of hand very quickly.
You have to think about how bad the argument was & remember that it's not unusual for a couple to have aggressive arguments, so there will be a lot more to come & IF the arguments are gonna get worse then the violence will too.

It sounds like a lot of trouble over nothing at the moment but if you have only been with him for a little while then it's probably best to get out of it before something serious happens, you cant blame your friend for dragging you down there because it's your choice & not hers, but I doubt he will be very interested now after that.

The police take it very seriously because a lot of women who are abused keep very quiet about it & never give the full story until it is too late, so they do their best to get to the truth as early as possible...if it wasnt much of a big deal then you changed that as soon as you informed the cops!

I've been in very aggressive arguments with partners in the past & I have pushed a woman a bit harder than I should have but if I ever marked/bruised a female then I would be so ashamed of myself. I really think you should get out of it now he is best left alone if he is gonna lay his hands on a woman. Has he apologised for it?

I hope you & your friend didnt just go to the police to spite him because that is such a terrible thing to do, & I know what a woman can be like when things get ugly.

You are a gorgeous girl & you can definately do better than somebody who hurts women physically, leave him well alone & get on with your life I reckon.
& by the way, if he ever lays a hand on you again, just get back to me & I will come all the way there & batter him for ya!!!

PM me if you wanna chat .........x

I don't go for this 'men shouldn't hit women' just cos they are a woman! People shouldn't hurt people whoever they are!

Saying that, I know all to well how an argument can get out of hand, and if you were bruised purely as a result of his grabbing your arm because you wouldn't leave after he'd asked you to, then going to the police was extreme in the least. I wouldn't want you back!!!

If it was deliberately physical, take another look at what you are involving yourself in!

If it was purely accidental and he was attempting to get you out to avoid confrontation, then understand that your methods of communicating with him weren't impressing him and he will be having second thoughts about how you two will be able to get on when you disagree.

It was silly going to the Police if it was non violent, it's only been a five month relationship as you say, but if he has a lot of feeling for you, he will appreciate you resolving what you have done by doing what's right, and apologising, talking to him calmly and sorting out where you two go from now. You need to inform the Police exactly what did take place, and if he was violent, it needs to be recorded by them, if it wasn't, then you be best to clear it up with them.

If it was deliberate violence, you are out, and stay out.