| Should i finish with my man? | |||||||||||||||||||||
|
|||||||||||||||||||||
| Total Votes : 6 | |||||||||||||||||||||
Favourites
Most popular topics | Love & Relationshipsopen/close
- Who fancies who?... (1299)
- Fess up... (670)
- look or personality... (261)
- Do you want a relationshi... (227)
- For Men, whats your Type?... (210)
- Is there any Genuine True... (188)
- do u fancy anyone of site... (173)
- why do men not want love ... (153)
- Regrets! what was yours... (141)
- Mystery social expert exp... (112)
- Do you think big is beaut... (107)
- Turn offs....... (99)
- Friends with an ex?... (99)
- CAN YOU BE FRIENDS WITH A... (94)
- Do women want fat blokes?... (92)
- Is it still considered ge... (91)
- At What Stage Do You Simp... (90)
- First Impressions!... (76)
- Is love real?... (74)
- One Night Stand... (72)
- No life parteners anymore... (72)
- What do men really want?... (71)
- Long distance Love/relati... (70)
- What would you do for lov... (68)
- Not How, but WHY???... (64)
Latest topics | Love & Relationshipsopen/close
- Compliments and taunts to...
- Mature ladies for younger...
- Heartbreak...
- What is your wish for chr...
- Does love choose us or vi...
- Love Poems...!...
- heart broken...
- what is love 1...
- what is love...
- i want someone that wont ...
- i'm new to this! and look...
- msn address...
- Is there such a thing as ...
- Which is betterr,being si...
- international lady of mys...
- Mature lady for no string...
- Any genuine guys up for d...
- Do you want a relationshi...
- what would you like out o...
- what do you think love is...
- Open Marriage - Can it wo...
- Pease Pottage...
- what to do what to do ......
- how do you stop your hear...
- In search of my dream gir...
Poll: Should i finish with my man?
Home >> Love & Relationships >> Not How, but WHY???
25.07.2008, 14:45 quote
Nope - just avoided it for long enough so that i couldnt really bring it up again.
Oh well. He knows how i feel now.
I have taken a new approach to the relationship, and am looking at it as if its just a casual thing, and we have fun as and when and not to get too into things.
If it doesnt work it doesnt work.
I just have to try and be strong about it!
25.07.2008, 14:59 quote
| DeepthroatH wrote: |
| Tel, i always have barriers up. Always, thats just me. It takes a long time for any man (and friend) to get past those barriers and see my emotional/calm/sensitive side. I dont know why this is, and i have had people throw all sorts of ideas at me, but at the end of the day, i just dont like letting people in. It hurts too much when they do get in and it doesnt work.
God i am really laying this all out in the open arent i? I am a psycho!  |
Turn it the other way round "H".When the right man comes along who is prepared to put the effort in his rewards will be fantastic,you seem to be laying all the responsibility on your own shoulders.Your partners lack of drive and ambition means he will struggle to get in through lack of effort.
As for been a psycho,absolutely not.Broke up at Christmas after 18 years,empaphise with you totally,alot of us have been down this road.You will open your heart when the right man comes along,he will be one lucky guy.
25.07.2008, 19:04 quote
| DeepthroatH wrote: |
| Nope - just avoided it for long enough so that i couldnt really bring it up again.
Oh well. He knows how i feel now. I have taken a new approach to the relationship, and am looking at it as if its just a casual thing, and we have fun as and when and not to get too into things. If it doesnt work it doesnt work. I just have to try and be strong about it! |
Huh? Of course it wont work, you are not happy about it! WTF is this about trying to be strong about it?
Excuse me for sounding harsh (again) but exactly what are you gaining from this?
I mean, if I found out that my partner - casual or not - had a chuffing POLL for zillions of strangers on the internet to vote as to whether or not he should dump me -- I'd slap him from here to eternity and back and tell him to burn in hell.
What respect do you show for this guy? None that I can see! And you expect commitment from this guy? Quite frankly, you dont deserve it.
And you seem to have no respect for yourself either. You havent the balls tell him to his face that you dont like him flirting online, so you text him. Then you act like its some big deal that he didnt reply, then you say "Oh well he ignored me, now its too late for me to bring it up again".
What game are you playing? What do you hope to gain from all this?
Sorry but all I can see is someone here going "poor me" and treating some bloke like shite, he treats you like shite (from what you've said) and yet you dont get yourself out of it.
Like I said before, you choose to stay in the situation, so what exactly was the point of all this?
I actually hope your man sees this thread, because no matter what a dull twerp you say he is, he doesnt deserve to be treated like wallpaper.....POLL: Should I get rid of my current green wallpaper and get some new yellow wallpaper?
I just dont get it.
If you are happy to carry on like this, good luck to you both, but something tells me you are selling yourself short, and him too.
Rant over!
26.07.2008, 00:16 quote
| snoopy2000 wrote: |
| Rocketgirl
Wow you certainly don't mince your words do you  |
She's a straight talkin' sista!
28.07.2008, 10:56 quote
Rocket Girl - as harsh as you are, i know what you say is true.
I was a little offended by your post at first, but then i realised you were only speaking the truth, if not a little aggresively...
Anyway, I feel really bad for posting this conversation now, as yes, it is pretty mean of me, and if he had done this to/about me, i dont think i would be very happy about it at all.... but the point of these forums is to have somewhere to turn to. Get different peoples perspectives on things.. or at least i thought so any way...
But thank you for taking the time to respond..
H x x
28.07.2008, 13:29 quote
No way, I am not aggressive. How do you make that out with just written words. If you were my best friend I would say exactly the same thing, and we'd not fall out over it.
You are right, this place is somewhere to get other people's perspective, and I gave mine as well.
As to 'somewhere to turn' are you sure you dont mean you only wanted 'nice fluffy' responses.
I wasn't 'having a go' at you. It was just my own perspective, my opinion. Doesnt make me right, you dont have to agree with me.
I hope things work out for you whatever you decide, and have a big hug from me so you know I am not aggressive at all, I just dont fluff up my thoughts sometimes. 
28.07.2008, 13:29 quote
| DeepthroatH wrote: |
|
I have taken a new approach to the relationship, and am looking at it as if its just a casual thing, and we have fun as and when and not to get too into things. |
That's not very fair on him if he is expecting more to come of the relationship and thinks because you're just "going with the flow" then you've come to terms with his faults and are getting past them.
29.07.2008, 13:14 quote
| DeepthroatH wrote: |
 |
Aww wipe the tears. I'll play fight if you really want.
_________________
You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum
You cannot vote in polls in this forum
