And now Miss No Pants will come along and say that I also have:

1. No drive or ambition etc etc etc
2. No enthusiasm for anything. Ever. etc etc etc
3. Flirting with women on the internet etc etc etc
4. No money ever. (and I mean EVER)
5. We have been together nearly 4 months etc etc etc
6. Doesnt ever want to go on holiday. (well, that bit is negotiable)
(points 7 - 9 don't apply )

and that I have no right to offer advice on the subject in the first palce, and that I should be working this morning

I'd say you don't sound anything like a psycho on this thread DeepthroatH.

I would say that if you have a problem with his internet flirting I'd have thought texting was a bad way to air it. But as your problems are far greater than this one issue it seems more of a delaying tactic than anything.
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Just a couple of things, cuz I am late getting off out, but this caught my eye.
Do you think it is possible that you have gotten somewhat comfortable with things the way they are?
By "comfortable" I don't mean happy, contented etc. because you clearly arent. I mean, sometimes even when a person is deeply depressed for instance its easier to just sit there and moan about it rather than *do* something to change the situation.
I say this because lets call a spade a shovel for a moment...unless he's got you chained to his side, or you only possess one brain cell, if things were intolerable you would not be here writing this, you'd be long gone on yer toes. No matter how bad a situation, people only stay in it if there is a pay-off, even if thats just not having to make a decision.
I dont want to appear harsh when i say that, but the reality is you are still with him. And you are doing him as well as yourself a disservice by not telling him he's not right for you, or even if you have, by staying with him you are saying to both him and yourself "You are not right for me, but thats ok"....Why is it ok to stay stuck with someone you dont really want to be with? Thats not fair on him or you. You are not giving him the chance to find a woman who appreciates his dullness, and you are not giving yourself the chance to find a more exciting man.
The fact that he is flirting with others tells me that HE is not happy with you either.
So, you are telling him he must not flirt with others because it makes you feel uncomfortable. Ok, so lets say now he dont flirt with others, he devotes himself to you and you alone. Are you happy to stay with him now? No? I didnt think so. Its not about him flirting with others, is it?There;s another thread here about 'dumping nice' people. Are you judging yourself, unfavorably, because you believe (someplace in your psyche) that you HAVE TO have a better excuse to get out other than "I'm bored" and all the other reasons on your list?
No one needs to justify themselves. You want out? Get out. Simple as. If you feel the need to give him the blurb about whatever reasons you care to tell him about you and him not being right together, fine, but bottom line is: you dont *have to* be given permission by him, or us even, to do whats best for you. Just give yourself permission, I am guessing that's something you dont do easily in life.
One other question: You've only been together 2 months, and in that time broke up twice - hardly a life-long commitment there....What on earth possessed you to go back the first time? And the second? If you can be honest with yourself about how the two of you ended up back together not once but twice, maybe it will give you an insight into why you find it so difficult to make a clean break this time.
Big Hugs!!

(oh and my advice is Dont think about this late at night or when you've had too much to drink, wait til your head is clear).

More valid comments. And noticeably sound advice from Rocketgirl....
I dont give myself "permission" easily in life, and do worry about hurting others and not wanting others to be upset by something i have done, but on the same note, i am a very strong minded person, and usually dont have issues in dealing with these things.
I need to bite the bullet and just say that it isnt working on this level anymore, and maybe we should just be friends or not see each other again.
And CMISO - i know airing my issues over text propbably isnt the best way to do it, but i dont know when i will see him again, and its something i had to get off my chest.
He hasnt text back since.

He normnally always responds to everything, even if its a one word answer. Nothing today. :0(

I dont know what to doooooooo...

I want to scream!

screaming helps and kicking things I find

Take it from somebody that stayed in a relationship like that for a while. (ok, it wasn't that long, but..it was 3 months (on and off.)

It's better to break up now rather than in a few months time.

You summed it up yourself, DtH. You'd advise your friends to dump him. So...follow your own advice.


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Laura
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Confidence - Wear it like make up.

Just wish Lillybet would kick something other than me for a change.
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I should do it i just cant.

I dont know why.

Screaming doesnt help, it just hurts!

There must be a reason as to why you can't...

Maybe it's although you aren't...right for each other, it still kind of works?
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Laura
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Confidence - Wear it like make up.

I think thats what it is. It works when i let it, but i dont let it because it isnt working. Does that make sense?

Also, he looks hot with his mohawk up.

LOL.

This isnt funny. I just need to lighten my mood.

It makes a lot of sense.

Ooh...a mohawk?
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Laura
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Confidence - Wear it like make up.