Sounds similar to my situation.

I'm reluctant to end it as I know that we do have fun when he isn't complaining, but I do agree with what scaramuccia has said, and I know the main reason is not wanting to be on my own again, and that even though things aren't great its still the best I've ever been treated in a relationship.

I understand what you are going through.

I understand too deepthroath.

I spent two years in an unhappy relationship because I didn't want to be on my own. The very fact that you have listed all of those reasons NOT to be with him suggest that you need to get out.

I understand that it is hard, but believe me, it will be worth it.

You are clearly unhappy, and whilst it seems like there is nothing on the other side, there IS. I am now alot happoer being out of the relationship than I was whilst I was in it.

It was difficult initially and I missed being with someone, but let that motivate you to go through with it. Respect yourself and get out. The quicker you do so and find someone that you do get on with, the happier you will be.

I am sending you a hug. *Hug*

Ok H.

Hope all goes well.

You know me I never get offended, I get your point completely, and to be fair its not a reason for staying, but it adds to the reluctance to let go and probably try hard then I normally would to make things work.

My bloke has a lot of issues and talking to him isn't easy (last time I tried we nearly broke up), also I have a hard time expressing what i want and need to say. However you are right as per usual

yep i know that feeling, but time will tell. It's all just got a little complicated over the last few weeks, and I'm finding it hard to get my head around.

Just a couple of things, cuz I am late getting off out, but this caught my eye.
Do you think it is possible that you have gotten somewhat comfortable with things the way they are?
By "comfortable" I don't mean happy, contented etc. because you clearly arent. I mean, sometimes even when a person is deeply depressed for instance its easier to just sit there and moan about it rather than *do* something to change the situation.
I say this because lets call a spade a shovel for a moment...unless he's got you chained to his side, or you only possess one brain cell, if things were intolerable you would not be here writing this, you'd be long gone on yer toes. No matter how bad a situation, people only stay in it if there is a pay-off, even if thats just not having to make a decision.
I dont want to appear harsh when i say that, but the reality is you are still with him. And you are doing him as well as yourself a disservice by not telling him he's not right for you, or even if you have, by staying with him you are saying to both him and yourself "You are not right for me, but thats ok"....Why is it ok to stay stuck with someone you dont really want to be with? Thats not fair on him or you. You are not giving him the chance to find a woman who appreciates his dullness, and you are not giving yourself the chance to find a more exciting man.
The fact that he is flirting with others tells me that HE is not happy with you either.
So, you are telling him he must not flirt with others because it makes you feel uncomfortable. Ok, so lets say now he dont flirt with others, he devotes himself to you and you alone. Are you happy to stay with him now? No? I didnt think so. Its not about him flirting with others, is it?There;s another thread here about 'dumping nice' people. Are you judging yourself, unfavorably, because you believe (someplace in your psyche) that you HAVE TO have a better excuse to get out other than "I'm bored" and all the other reasons on your list?
No one needs to justify themselves. You want out? Get out. Simple as. If you feel the need to give him the blurb about whatever reasons you care to tell him about you and him not being right together, fine, but bottom line is: you dont *have to* be given permission by him, or us even, to do whats best for you. Just give yourself permission, I am guessing that's something you dont do easily in life.
One other question: You've only been together 2 months, and in that time broke up twice - hardly a life-long commitment there....What on earth possessed you to go back the first time? And the second? If you can be honest with yourself about how the two of you ended up back together not once but twice, maybe it will give you an insight into why you find it so difficult to make a clean break this time.
Big Hugs!!

(oh and my advice is Dont think about this late at night or when you've had too much to drink, wait til your head is clear).

screaming helps and kicking things I find

hope you get it sorted soon hun *hugs*

One thing that comes to my mind is that maybe you are worried how he will react, perhaps hurting his feelings. I haven't even read your profile but judging from what I have seen on this sounds like you are a very caring person. Try not to worry how he is going to be or how he will react unless he gets aggressive. You have to do what you feel is right.

There are ways of breaking it of with someone one way is to send a text, this can be useful as you neither see or hear the person you are breaking it off with. Straight after sending him one you could then delete and block,I know this sounds harsh but for both your sakes if you are not happy then this is just one solution.

Now I am going to throw the spanner in the works.

If he is not motivated to do anything it may just be that he needs some encouragement, someone to show or perhaps lead him to excitement. I know this is normally something that men usually need to lead on but both your personalities are somewhat different.

You may already be used to having a relationship that was once fun but he may not have. I hope this all makes sense. Before I carry on, you definitely do not sound like you are psycho but do sound like someone near the end of her tether because she does not know what to do for the best or what she really wants. He might be content on his life and so therefore may not feel competitive like you, some people are just happy to earn a wage and get by with what they have others are never and so lose sight of everything that matters just to pursue a career for themselves.

Try coming up with different ideas, sometimes relationships may call for more compromising so may feel like harder work but really sounds like you have made your mind up, if so use texts or internet or speak with him on the mobile, try not to worry how he is going to be as he will find someone else as he found you.

Hope all this helps

Good luck.

Rocketgirl

Wow you certainly don't mince your words do you

No way, I am not aggressive. How do you make that out with just written words. If you were my best friend I would say exactly the same thing, and we'd not fall out over it.
You are right, this place is somewhere to get other people's perspective, and I gave mine as well.
As to 'somewhere to turn' are you sure you dont mean you only wanted 'nice fluffy' responses.
I wasn't 'having a go' at you. It was just my own perspective, my opinion. Doesnt make me right, you dont have to agree with me.
I hope things work out for you whatever you decide, and have a big hug from me so you know I am not aggressive at all, I just dont fluff up my thoughts sometimes.