interesting becuase not liking say short guys, or not wanting to date a bald bloke, or a fat guy, I can understand, but all of these things are unable to be changed. Smoking can change. I've smoked on and off for most of my life but when I had my last serious relationship I gave up (andyes, I did give up) for the rest of the relationship (a whole 15 minutes!). I did of course start again after the relationship ended! Doh!

I just think that maybe smoking isn't the issue, the issue perhaps is more one of the individual smoker's commitment to smoking as opposed ot a commitment to a relationship.

maybe she just found me irresistable.....even though I was a smoker..... but when things got very serious, it seemed a small sacrifice to give up.

Of course, all this might seem like it has nothing to do with the topic title (life partners) at all.

But it does. In a way. (.....gets his slippers and pipe out and settles down to lecture the youngsters.....)

Hmmm, sounds like you and i may have similarities......

One of my biggest faults is that I prepared to over compromise to please people. And you can't please ......ah, shut me up someone!

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Just a quickie* - I hope you don’t think I was being rude! I did specifically say “She is not shallow at all, she just doesn't want to be with a smoker, this is one of the things on her 'list'.” Earlier in the thread someone JOKINGLY said that lists like that are for the more shallow amongst us, and I was trying to make a serious point that everyone has a ‘list’ that includes things that not everyone will have thought of adding to their own list (indeed points that others might feel are shallow) - elsewhere I used the examples of valid list additions such as fashion, age, education, accent, race, etc, (height is also a valid one!), although most people will deny that those kind of things are on their list, because they are worried that people will think that they are shallow.

I think it’s admirable that people do put their personal preferences on their public ‘list’, it saves an awful lot of time-wasting (and needless email ping pong ).

No i dont think you were being rude. freespeech and all that. lol just wish i could meet a tall non smoker. lol

I'd give up for you merseygal!

If you live in a small village, it is also more likely the relationship will last longer - because there is no competition. But it is unlikely to meet your partner in small village in the first place....but some do...and usually they stay together forever.

I think if you have a girlfriend that has a lot of hobbies and interests...goes out a lot...clubbing...so basically one that is quite active....and if you live in a big city......it is only a matter of time until she meets someone new/else/"better" and therefore it is unlikely it will last forever. Especially if you work a lot.....

And if you have a girlfriend that does have many interests/hobbies and does not go out a lot, it is unlikely she will meet someone else - but the problem is nobody wants to have such a boring girlfriend and you life would be boring too.

So if you want a relationship that lasts you either need a boring girlfriend in a boring village without any competition as far as other men is concerned or you need to be......the most amazing guy on earth.