You know, this morning I found a profile on FB of someone who, on the surface, would suit me perfectly (not that I'm looking of course ). But she went on and on and on and on and on about a non-smoker. She is not shallow at all, she just doesn't want to be with a smoker, this is one of the things on her 'list'. If anyone on this forum tells me they don't have a list that includes at least one or two 'shallow' things (i.e. personal preferences) that they absolutely will not compromise on, I shalll start a new thread called 'Pants On Fire'

[As a smoker, I think any list that includes no-smoking is a bit of a shit list, but hey, it's not my list, they can put what they like in it Laughing Oh, completely off-topic (what's new), 4 of my dates in the past year professed to be non-smokers, but when we were together they scabbeed rollups off me - non-smokers indeed, they were just too tight to buy fags ]

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I dont feel hurt by your comments re smoking. But I'm not shallow at all. Ive never smoked nor stopped people from smoking - its their choice - but i choose to be with a non smoker - but cant find one! lol

i suppose you could say im shallow re height too if people think im shallow re smoking versus non smoking - in that case - i am tall and choose NOT to date a short person! I went out with a guy 5'7" once but it didnt feel right - people stared when we were out - and i didnt feel comfortable with it. it looks bad when a woman is taller than a man - but ok when the man is taller.

I was starting to think that us smokers were becoming a minority now. Oh and for all you smokers out there who can't smoke in pubs in england, etc now, get yourselves over here, our ban doesn't start until March 31st 2008, he he

Welcome Gav

Of course, all this might seem like it has nothing to do with the topic title (life partners) at all.

But it does. In a way. (.....gets his slippers and pipe out and settles down to lecture the youngsters.....)

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Just a quickie* - I hope you don’t think I was being rude! I did specifically say “She is not shallow at all, she just doesn't want to be with a smoker, this is one of the things on her 'list'.” Earlier in the thread someone JOKINGLY said that lists like that are for the more shallow amongst us, and I was trying to make a serious point that everyone has a ‘list’ that includes things that not everyone will have thought of adding to their own list (indeed points that others might feel are shallow) - elsewhere I used the examples of valid list additions such as fashion, age, education, accent, race, etc, (height is also a valid one!), although most people will deny that those kind of things are on their list, because they are worried that people will think that they are shallow.

I think it’s admirable that people do put their personal preferences on their public ‘list’, it saves an awful lot of time-wasting (and needless email ping pong ).

No i dont think you were being rude. freespeech and all that. lol just wish i could meet a tall non smoker. lol

If you live in a small village, it is also more likely the relationship will last longer - because there is no competition. But it is unlikely to meet your partner in small village in the first place....but some do...and usually they stay together forever.

I think if you have a girlfriend that has a lot of hobbies and interests...goes out a lot...clubbing...so basically one that is quite active....and if you live in a big city......it is only a matter of time until she meets someone new/else/"better" and therefore it is unlikely it will last forever. Especially if you work a lot.....

And if you have a girlfriend that does have many interests/hobbies and does not go out a lot, it is unlikely she will meet someone else - but the problem is nobody wants to have such a boring girlfriend and you life would be boring too.

So if you want a relationship that lasts you either need a boring girlfriend in a boring village without any competition as far as other men is concerned or you need to be......the most amazing guy on earth.