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26.06.2007, 11:47 quote

Anonymous

susiexxx wrote:
My parents both met when they were 15 and had 3 children by the time they were twenty..they celebrated their 40th wedding anniversary last christmas..and I'm sure there were a lot of people at that celebration that doubted they would last a couple of years..

Heres to true love Partyman


Good luck to them..hope they have a lot more happy years together 2 man down

 

26.06.2007, 14:29 quote

Anonymous

Heres to true love Partyman[/quote]

Here Here !! daminlove

 

02.08.2007, 15:36 quote

Anonymous


Hi there, When i married I was married for life (or at least that is what I thought at the time). I never thought that i would divorce. it broke my heart. He was such a nasty piece of work! javascript:emoticon('Crying or Very sad')
Crying or Very sad

Now i have found that its MEN who dont want long term relationships - sepite them saying they do! My last partner (we were both divorced and we both wanted a new long term partner) lasted 4 months and within that time he changed and lied just as my ex-husband did. I was the giver yet again and he was the taker. However, this time i woke up and ended it before it had gone on for too long.

Im not nasty or bitter - i dont brand all men the same.

I just wish there was a nice, caring, sharing guy out there for me who wants an HONEST long term relationship.

 

02.08.2007, 20:54 quote

Anonymous

MerseyGal wrote:

Hi there, When i married I was married for life (or at least that is what I thought at the time). I never thought that i would divorce. it broke my heart. He was such a nasty piece of work! javascript:emoticon('Crying or Very sad')
Crying or Very sad

Now i have found that its MEN who dont want long term relationships - sepite them saying they do! My last partner (we were both divorced and we both wanted a new long term partner) lasted 4 months and within that time he changed and lied just as my ex-husband did. I was the giver yet again and he was the taker. However, this time i woke up and ended it before it had gone on for too long.

Im not nasty or bitter - i dont brand all men the same.

I just wish there was a nice, caring, sharing guy out there for me who wants an HONEST long term relationship.


Sorry to hear that MerseyGal, and welcome to the board. Seems often the good men don't meet the good women, seems a lot of men can tell a similar story. Its one of life's great puzzles.

There's loads of good men come on here, hang about for a while. Cant promise you'll find a life time relationship though, but you'll have fun

 

05.08.2007, 21:20 quote

Anonymous

Just like Merseygal, i married when i was 21 and was in it for life. Boy did i fight to keep that marriage going, through emotional abuse, infidelity and his insecurity. In the end when i had become a mere mouse of a girl i finally had the courage, with the backing of my family, to end it all. Only when my mum saw me after a couple of years did she say my god, i wish i'd told you to end it years ago.

My mum and step dad have been together for 30 yrs this Sept, and yes they've had ups and downs but they work their way through it, mainly by my dad being quiet when mum goes off on one!!! Then its all over within a couple of hours and everyone can go back to normal.
Laughing

 

07.08.2007, 10:59 quote

Anonymous

"Merseygal, sounds like you keep getting attracted to the same sort of guy and then get surprised that they turn out to be...the same sort of guy.....if what you're doing doesn't work, change what you do.....sorry if that sounds harsh and I know (I KNOW) it's not as easy as that, but maybe oyu need ot start filtering out someone who ticks the boxes you usually tick....

I know I'm attracted to strong independent women, but I also want to care for someone......so this hasn't worked out too well in the past.....I'm hoping this can change."
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Thanks olblueeyes, for the above, maybe your'e right, im looking for all the right boxes that have been ticked! a friend actually said that to me recently re ticked boxes. (maybe you and I should get together! lol.) I'm a little stronger since i have gotten through all the mess that life's thrown at me over the years (i was married for over 25 years with all the abuse he gave me till i was strong enough to walk away) but i still want and need a 'cuddle', someone to chill out with etc. someone who respects me. I'm not a nasty person. I havent told my children not to marry - its their choice and i hope they find their life partner.

 

07.08.2007, 11:37 quote

Anonymous

olblueeyes wrote:
............. keep getting attracted to the same sort of guy and then get surprised that they turn out to be...the same sort of guy......


Ah, but most people have a List (you, THE list)

Beware the dreaded list

[ The List post was here ]

 

07.08.2007, 11:56 quote

Anonymous

annmarie5988 wrote:


My list is quite simple, Honest, Caring, Mutual Respect & GSOH is essential, unfortuantely dont tend to meet that many honest ones, but heres hoping that one day he will appear ............... xx


Ah, your list is very basic, lucky you Smile

I suspect that if people who profess to have a basic 'personaility' list were to be prompted a little they would find many more things to add to their list. Fashion? Age? Education? Accent? Race? Smoker? Drinker? Nose picker? Swearing? Which newspapers do they read? OK, these are bit silly, but you get the idea. Everyone has a list that they don't tell other people about.

 

07.08.2007, 12:11 quote

Anonymous

GavTheMighty wrote:
darkhorse58 wrote:
annmarie5988 wrote:


My list is quite simple, Honest, Caring, Mutual Respect & GSOH is essential, unfortuantely dont tend to meet that many honest ones, but heres hoping that one day he will appear ............... xx


Ah, your list is very basic, lucky you Smile

I suspect that if people who profess to have a basic 'personaility' list were to be prompted a little they would find many more things to add to their list. Fashion? Age? Education? Accent? Race? Smoker? Drinker? Nose picker? Swearing? Which newspapers do they read? OK, these are bit silly, but you get the idea. Everyone has a list that they don't tell other people about.


It's actually very true! I'm secretly wishing that some girl will tell me she likes squirrels and will let me smear her in vodka jelly.......Oops did I say that out loud............


Why secretly wish it? Just go ahead and put it on your profile, you might be surprised at the response

[ Just out of curiousity, is the vodka jelly smearing done using the squirrel as a brush? ]

 

07.08.2007, 12:23 quote

Anonymous

annmarie5988 wrote:
Quote:
Fashion? Age? Education? Accent? Race? Smoker? Drinker? Nose picker? Swearing? Which newspapers do they read? OK, these are bit silly, but you get the idea. Everyone has a list that they don't tell other people about.[/


Those sort of lists are for the shallow people amoung us though .......... Wink Wink x


You would think so, wouldn't you?

You know, this morning I found a profile on FB of someone who, on the surface, would suit me perfectly (not that I'm looking of course ). But she went on and on and on and on and on about a non-smoker. She is not shallow at all, she just doesn't want to be with a smoker, this is one of the things on her 'list'. If anyone on this forum tells me they don't have a list that includes at least one or two 'shallow' things (i.e. personal preferences) that they absolutely will not compromise on, I shalll start a new thread called 'Pants On Fire'

[As a smoker, I think any list that includes no-smoking is a bit of a shit list, but hey, it's not my list, they can put what they like in it Laughing Oh, completely off-topic (what's new), 4 of my dates in the past year professed to be non-smokers, but when we were together they scabbeed rollups off me - non-smokers indeed, they were just too tight to buy fags ]

 

07.08.2007, 12:25 quote

Anonymous

GavTheMighty wrote:
You know I just this moment realized that after some of the posts I have put here on these forums I probably have killed any chances of meeting anyone nice lol. But hey ho. Smile

This is what I get for deciding not to paint my flat today and just laze around instead. Smile


Nah, you'll go a long way here Gav. Just wait till the rest of the regulars get here Laughing

 

07.08.2007, 12:41 quote

Anonymous

GavTheMighty wrote:

Oh and we have regulars here? Awesome. Smile I felt like I was the only one posting today.


Yeh, they don't often come to this part of the forum though.

Just to give you a quick rundown on what happens where on the forum, regulars seem to spend a lot of time playing word games in Fun and Games or crushing on one another in the Dating forum. The people with the least amount of posts to their name (usually 1) are usually found touting their sexual prowess in the Requests thread in the love forum.

Recently, there has also been a bit of willie waving in threads like The Marriage Opener. Not a very pleasant si(gh)t(e).

Welcome to the madhouse.......

 

07.08.2007, 12:47 quote

Anonymous

GavTheMighty wrote:
I ment to type embarrass me but there seems to be a problem with me staying logged in I have to log in every time I go to a new page or do just about anything. And it wont allow me to edit my hideous spelling errors lol.


I bet you're using Internet Explorer?

 

07.08.2007, 13:44 quote

Anonymous

Cazzabee wrote:
Heres one of them adults out to play for a while


Gav, meet Cazzbee; Cazzbee, meet Gav.

 

07.08.2007, 14:27 quote

Anonymous

The only couple of things that i look for in an ideal match for a man is TALL due to my height (i'm 5'10") men dont like me taller than them when i wear my heels!

and the second is a non-smoker. (quite a few of people i have dated have smoked which i have accepted although not been keen on! its not nice kissing a smoker when you arent one) other than that i do look at what i have in front of me and accept them for what they are.

they start off nice, say they are HONEST and CARING etc, then they turn and show their true selves including dating other people and lying aobut it amongst other things.

I am an honest, caring, loving person with a lot to give but end up not receiving the respect and love i deserve.

If you are out there - please get in touch!

I don't bite!

 
 
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