So what do you think about dating somebody who has a different religious belief to you?

Would you date somebody who was a practising Christian, Muslim, Buddhist etc? Does religion matter to you in a partner? or is it important you share the same beliefs? If you are religious, would you date somebody who isn't?

Or would you prefer somebody who is not religious? Would you consider converting to a religion for a partner?

An interesting point ! I don't really do religion, so it'd be quite an issue if my partner did !! i won't go into it on here though.
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A woman at work has asked me out. She is a Christian and I dont believe in god at all. I am not sure how religious she is but I know she is 24, a virgin and has spoken of being a Christian. I am thinking it could be an issue further down the line if it progressed past a date or two. I am wondering if I am making an issue of it more than it needs to be? I just don't believe in god and she does!


Hence the idea for this topic

I got married in a Spiritualsit Church because my ex-hubby wanted to get married in a church, yet he never went to church and I did... so it had to be my church. It never bothered me what he thought about religion so long as there was respect for my beliefs.

To be honest, I'm more eclectic in my beliefs but because I use my psychic-ness I veer towards those who are spiritualists as they will be more open to the 'things' I value, or that I feel I have an understanding of.
I COULD NOT TAKE UP ANOTHER PERSON'S FAITH in the same way I would not expect a partner to take up mine.
If I were looking for a long term partner now, I WOULD be looking for somebody who was 'SPIRITUAL' and had the qualities and values that complimented my own, but that wouldn't include that they had to believe in God. To me 'religion' is a way of life, and we all have that, so it's about the potential for love and to live in harmony that is important.
The mere fact of somebody wanting me to convert to their religion in itself would be enough for me to say we should never be a couple.

Can i presume from your change of status on Facebook ........ you went for it ........

I think the same as Stuart .......... you might get on great and if she wants to go to church every sunday morning, it will give you the chance to get the dinner sorted .......

'So what do you think about dating somebody who has a different religious belief to you?'
I think, Yes, I would! If they had very strong views, say, they were of the opinion that the only good atheist was a dead atheist - I'd probably spend a very long time thinking!

'Would you date somebody who was a practising Christian, Muslim, Buddhist etc?'
If they were happy to date a practising atheist, yeah.

'Does religion matter to you in a partner?'
No. So long as it doesn't matter so much to them that they feel I must be saved.
Or that they have a message for me from God...

'or is it important you share the same beliefs?'
No. To paraphrase MP, so long as they respect my non-beliefs.

'If you are religious, would you date somebody who isn't?'
N/A

'Or would you prefer somebody who is not religious?'
Wouldn't matter either way - if it didn't matter to them.

'Would you consider converting to a religion for a partner?'
No. Maybe some other branch of atheism.

A person could still have many of the qualities that make a good Christian, or a good Muslim, or a good Buddist - and never go to a church, or mosque, or temple and not believe in a Divinity.

I was intrigued by you saying you know she's a virgin.
Has she got some sort of certificate? Or is it stamped on her forehead?
You wouldn't see that as being a difficulty too?

(If she loves Kent, cycling, kayaking, and photography - you're going to be stuff, mate! )
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Well...I am a muslim and we are allowed to date and marry christians and jews girls, so that's not matter, but the priority is for muslims, then come other relegions...personaly i dont mind my other half's relegion, but if she can cover to islam that will be a plus :]

A women messaged me and told me she liked me, but she lived up north [over 200 miles away] so it was probably out of the question.

Also she was very religious, and had on her profile 'I'm religious, which means I dont want sex before marriage'. I did point out to her I didnt want to get married, so there wouldn't be much sex

She wasnt really a stick in the mud and we had a bit of saucy chat on msn But thats as far as it went.
She has someone at the moment, and good luck to her.


Religion is one thing, getting married is something else.

I dated somebody who was religious - he was catholic and he tried to persuade me to give religion another try and I just was NOT interested - obviously that became a problem as I gave up my religion at around 13/14.

I'm not saying I wouldn't date somebody religious. I would, as long as they don't shove their religion down my throat.
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Confidence - Wear it like make up.

Regilion/God is an absolute no-no for me. It would be unnerving being with someone who converses with an imaginary friend, well hardly a friend, more a mediaeval overlord.
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Religion/God is an absolute no-no for me. It would be unnerving being with someone who converses with an imaginary friend, well hardly a friend, more a mediaeval overlord.
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I just have no interest in god, higher beings, lower beings or middle beings whatsoever and I just don't think I can stand people going on about their religious faith, as they inevitably will.

She cancelled our date, said she had to pick someone up from the airport which she forgot about. She said we will have to reschedule but has not suggested anything so I am just going to leave it at that.

Getting back to this, a couple of weeks ago our date was rescheduled but after talking to her again the week leading up to the date it became clear that she wanted very different things in her life than what I wanted in mine. Also, she did try and tell me that I might one day accept god and believe in marriage. That was what made me decide to cancel the date. No point pursuing a relationship with somebody when they are clearly completely out of step with the fundamentals of who you are, what you want and more about changing you to what they want.
She was ok and we are still friends, via work emails

I'm an Atheist. I've had many arguments, debates, discussions etc with people of many varying faiths, beliefs, opinions etc. Some seem to think discussions and debates are purely for converting others. This can and is in most cases, untrue.

Yet when I look at another who doesn't care about what others believe and doesn't force their theology down another's throat, the differences become transparent.

Humans seem to have an undeniable ability to split apart and collect in separate groups. But simultaniously they seem to come together regardless of race, religion, age, gender etc.

I believe when two opposing view points have a common goal, their differences vanish and their bond becomes stronger.