Why is it that men and women think it's cool to play mind games with people they know care about them?
I've realized that when a guy isn't sure how a girl feel about them they do everything to make her interested but the instance she shows a tiniest amount of interest the guy he starts to become shifty and seemingly uninterested. Is it because it's a mind game they play to keep the woman interested or make her pursue him more?
I have no idea why people that care about each other don't just show it and forget the mind games.

Well, we all do it to an extent but I get what you are saying. I have been on other dating sites, as I am serious abbot finding someone and it's like. I put a lot of effort and emotions into this. When I send someone a "hi" or flirt thing, I mean it. I know when someone reads them and etc. Sometimes I will send it to the same people 'cause they do look at my profile , as will most sites. You know if the you do or not. I understand that guys like the "chasing" part but I get tired of it after a while. I mean either you like someone or you don't and I can take rejection. I'm not giving up but am trying different sites. Sometimes guys really don't know what they want despite what they say and sometimes women don't either. It's hard to find the ones who do. On the other hand, I am tired of little boy games at this point.

I too am serious when I give a guy my attention but I am tired of being the mature one who always seem to do the right thing while having to forgive a guy and his immature "mistakes"..
I think that people need to realise that life is too short to be playing the idiot and just accept love when it's true and staring you in the face.
Another thing I realised about guys, they always seem to take advice about relationships and women from the most douchey friends they have. The friend who is a player, broke, unambitious and a loser.

You're mixing with the wrong people. Some of us are nothing like that and also do not have friends like that either. Move house!!!!

Well, with me you could be right. My access talking to types of people can be limited. Which is why I am trying to open myself up more. I can't drive either, so I can't just go out easily like I wish I could. So I am hopeful about this website too . But yeah, I sort of get what your saying scriptwriter . Trying to broden my horizon . And I know not everyone is like that I have been with some really nice guys. Just hasn't worked out one reason or another. I'm finally ready to settle down though and start a relationship. So yeah I'm tired of always being the mature one myself. However, I know better then to give up. Just can be frustrating like it is for everyone and sometimes stuff just doesn't work out but yeah I'm tired of games too.

"Another thing I realised about guys, they always seem to take advice about relationships and women from the most douchey friends they have. The friend who is a player, broke, unambitious and a loser."


I so agree with that statement though. It's like been there, done that.

I've probably sent 500+ messages in the couple of years i've been on dating sites and of those messages i've probably had 10% repied to. In the same time, i've recieved 3 messages from women trying to initiate conversation or to 'break the ice'.

I can see your point and i think i can also vaguely see it from the other side too. Do i spend ages trying to see if someone interested or do i keep looking and maybe get muddled up with who i'm messaging?

If i'm interested in someone, i send them a message (it might take me 3 days and be deleted a million times until i've plucked up the nerve to actually send it) - That shows that i'm interested.
If someone replies to that message, i don't message anyone else while we are conversing so that i don't get distracted or confused, which i think can quite easily happen.

I personally have no idea how to react when someone shows interest in me, i usually end up doing all the wrong things and making a total twat of myself, purely down to nerves. but that's just me - i'm rubbish at all this dating stuff which is why i've been single so long !!
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Mind games are just bollocks! Whoever does them clearly cant be that secure within their self and have to resort to silly games in order for them to feel better about their self. Its also a power thing, typically men like to be in charge so will play games to continue in having the control.

About the whole wanting to settle down thing, personally I think you need to stop looking. You need to be happy within yourself, enjoy your own company, go out have fun, live your life, discover yourself. I honestly do believe that people find someone when they are not looking, see that way there is less pressure on things, your least likely to marry it up and can just go with the flow.

I agree with jugsofjustice when she said men like to be in control hence the mind games..I totally agree.
It's true also that finding happiness in yourself is also the best thing to do, taking time to figure yourself out before getting caught up.
That's what I'll be doing, making Natasha happy

Well done on your decision! Just remember though: you can please some of the people some of the time, and all of the people all of the time, but you can't please all of the people some of the time...