CRYING IS FOR THE WEAK

[/quote]I would much rather be with someone that can express their feelings and shed a tear whenever needed than someone that bottles everything up, because when you are not true to who you are you are in effect not anyone at all. But maybe I'm just a bit of a peace out kinda gal![/quote]

This is an interesting thread and I agree with the comment above comment.
My tears are just as often of JOY rather than sadness or frustration and I don't mind a man being the same, I like to know there's a sensitive side and a heart.

Only time that I can recall crying is when my daughter was born.... and aside from the death of a loved one or whatever, I dont think (or hope) I will ever have a reason to

I think a man who cries wherever and whenever he needs to is a real man. Especially if he doesn't give a damn who sees him crying. And even if he does a woman a good woman would tend to his heart and ignore the world for the time being.

I know some people see it as a weakness but we all have our ways of viewing things. Some people view it as weakness or inappropriate. One, in a world of mature adults, should a man crying really be top notch of concern in society?! Two, I think crying is brave and neccasary. For some people, like myself, it makes me stronger, cause without a cry when I need it, that overload of emotion that should pour out in the form of tears gets caught up in my heart and overflows in my mind. So those men who have the strength to cry, to let go of that emotion are real men to me.

- And a guy who can cry anywhere at a time he needs it and not give a damn at what people think of him... well he's my kind of guy.

Also, on the subtopic of bottling one's emotions...
It's understandable to rationalize and to try to control one's emotions ( though it can be less fun at times ). But to bottle them, and hide them, believing they are weak in having them, or insinuating they are above emotions in their entirety is highly unattractive to me and all the women I know.

Oh and another tid bit I'd like to add...

In some situations though if I had a man and he was crying, I'd have to snap him back to reality and say something like, " luvy, something more important should have our attention..." Like in the instance of zombies walking the earth or an apocolypse or something to that affect... you catch my drift?

What are tears? I have always thought they are the cleansing of the soul. If so, then yes everyone should cry when needed.

Crying is a show of emotions,and a show of strength. Crying too often about trivia, is percieved as a weakness, male or female.

Then you have different types of crying, different levels of pain, all cleansing.Naturally.

Have you ever cried that all you can do is produce what seems like a whale song? Now that fucking hurts.

I dont think there is anything wrong with people showing emotion wether it be male or female. To be honest especially with a bloke it would make a re-freshing change.

Unfortunately I've been brought up with the impression that showing any form of emotion is a sign of weakness, and I wish i could personally get out of the mind set

Edited 'cos I'm in the wrong frame of mind to have replied to Moose's stupid comment.
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I have to say i've never been with a man that cried openly about anything and everything..... so what i'm saying is i do/would feel uncomfortable with a partner who did. I think though its normal for a guy to cry after a loss etc - but not at a soppy film, or if they are just feeling down