no i dont think your a bad looking bloke realy, and i personly dont feel attracted to whats perceived to be good looing blokes because i find most men iv met in that genre are extreamly arrogant and cocky which are traits that i find very unattractive, i dont realy have a type that i find attractive the last few lads i have been attracted to have been tottaly different to eachother. but i think the experiences i have been through in life have taught me to give everyone a chance, look a bit deeper and you can get to know some amazing people

I think it does mate. Folk seem to be giving me a chance. Probably more so than in the 'real world'
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What will really surprise you is the amount of people viewing these threads without ever joining in. I tend to forget that most of the time,but I get quite a few hits on my other sites from people who have come from here.

so to summerise internet ids are flawed cus they cover major flaws so everyone expects them to be overinflated, then when your honest and reviel flaws online people think thats merely the tip of the iceberg... i hate these damn loops... either spirraling up or plummeting down... how long till darwins monster actually exists due to the internet?

Personally, right or wrong i have just been myself. Folk can take it or leave it i guess. I really am this big a muppet in real life!

I see Jeggs point though, anyone on here could end up being the opposite of what they seem to be but that can go the same way in the real world too. You meet someone, they are nice as pie for a while then it changes. It's obviously easier in the real world but overall its the same wherever you go. Untill you get to know someone you don't really know them. (does that last bit sound a bit sound right?)
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hi gareth just be yourself mate you got a good sence of humour. what you see is what you get..im the same dont shine on first dates but once you dig a bit deeper im ok. but it dosent work if you go out and all the chat up blokes what have a load of lines they say over and over again.. you dont stand a chance.. but on here you get that chance to shine gareth so keep making us laff and that girl will find you sooner or later ..mate

Maybe on dating sites where you don't join in on the forums, you may become a "keyboard warrior". Once you start to join in, others who are regular almost become friends so you tend to revert back to your normal self. That's from my experience anyway.

I have known several people who seemed to lighten up after posting on various forums for a while. Some come in with a real bad attitude and slowly begin to chill when they realise not everyone is out to get them here, unless they put people's backs up of course.

As for me, I am who I am and don't act any differently on or off the net. I have my "off days" when I can be a bit curt, but so does everyone else.

I think its easier to be yourself here than anywhere else because of the regulars, we are like a bunch of friends so like you said we all revert to ourselves like we would around mates.

And cheers Tom, i know she is out there. I am in no rush. I have me cats for company although i can't watch question time with them as they don't really have many political veiws beyond legalising catnip.
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