Looks are not worth what people base them on. Until you really get to know the person and who they are you really should not base your opions on them alone. I've been caught on that one more than once though.

I still think that most people go for looks first rather than personality. And what is a bad personality? Some women would love to bed this man for example even though he is a bit of a pyscho: click here.
I have been told that women go for hard men.

As Carrie Bradshaw would put it, I started wonderin'... I'm sure this has been written before, but what the heck...

Being into some sort of looks is (could be) because of the matin process, your kids havin good genes and their father being able to take care of them bla bla bla... However the personality part... Is that meant just to suite us or our kids too? What about when you think some person is truly bad lookin' and her mate is good lookin? Does that mean the good lookin one forgot all about the mating process and went over to please its brain (as it does with personality) by havin' control over the other person *since that would often rise in this case*?

Or is there not much left of the "father of your children subconscious part" (of course I didn't mean we think consciously -well most of the time anyway- I want him to father my children based on his looks ) ? That could be the explanation to us fallin' in love with some people we didn't even find attractive in the beginnin.

Now please excuse my post if it was all gibberish had to get it off my head. Bygone.

looks is generally what first attracts peeps to each other, as bliss was saying a healthy fit person is more likely to have healthy fit children according to the primal part of our brain.

Hence most animals put on a 'mating' display to attract a partner - the ones with the best display get laid

Personality is what we more base long term relationships on - looks are great for a one night stand, but if they're as thick as two short planks are ya really gonna wanna spend a long time with em?

On a personal note however, i get told i have a nice personality all the time, it would make a great change if i was told i had a nice ass

It's true that attraction is the basis for a relationship.

It was a certain person's smile that actually attracted me to them in the first place, although it was their personality that made me set a date to see them. And although I've never seen this person's ass (amongst the other things he's shown me lol) I'm sure it's as fine as the rest of him.
We'll have to see if my personality wins out against looks when we meet.....

But i will take either of then responses as it is a compliment.

Looks im afraid to say, it makes me feel more confident.

I would have to say neither of them, what makes you feel good for real is what you think of yourself.
You can´t go around and be depending of what other people think of you then you will never be satisfied.
And of course most people like a partner, friend with a healthy confidence, but you can never get that if you don´t know who you are and what you want.