Done the long distance thing for 5 years, though not with a bunny boiler, she was the normal psycho kind of girl, the killer was when it ended, did she let me travel to see her then say she was ending it (not bitter here by the way, honest), phone, text or e-mail? You cant really travel a couple of hundred miles to say sorry its over.

Anyway bitterness bit here - she phoned while I was at work one afternoon to say it was over.

After 5 years a phone call at work?

Jees she sounds like a nice lady!

She was wonderfull for a couple or 3 intense weekends a month for 5 years.
Then a bitch for 5 minutes.

Scares you?
Its not the long distance relationship that should worry you, its the ones who hide in the garden or are raiding the rabbit hutch that are scary

lol nah scares me, that there are so many weirdos out there an i thought i was unique *sigh* ahh well i must be normal long diatance relationships work i think if you want to make it work mine's goin great it's just very hard when ya have to say that goodbye

Go for it and really hope it works well.

Long distance relationships do not work period!!!!!!!!

mines working but mainly because we both want it too and we can both travel no problems.

Ultimatly all relationships fail... (bitter and twisted Steven there for a minute, sorry)

If you put in the work to a long distance relationship then there is no reason why it shouldn't last as long as any other. The ending is worse than usual because it has to be done remotely, its not fair to drive 230 miles to be told 'sorry its all over', and 230 back again in an upset state (the timing can be picked carefully though).

If it becomes permanent relationship - marriage or living together, then by default it has to fail as a long distance relationship when one of you moves near the other one. Its then a normal relationsip.

Just a thought on the sex thing though. If thats all you want from a realtionship then there are plenty of locals who would do that without any strings attached. OK you might have to pay, but it would be cheaper and less hassle than the travel costs, the accomodation, meals, weekends away together, evenings out, phone calls, all the little things that make life a bit more fun.