The Key is Balance!

How do we all forget about it. A true Gentleman is not really what is right for a woman is just the dream. The Asshole is the other side of it. Come one ladies how long until all the opening of doors, pulling back chairs etc will start making you feel useless? How long after the endless sweet talking would you like to hear something really dirty that makes you feel a real hottie? Any woman who says her dream man must be a gentleman in my opinion either is lying or truely doesn't know what she wants in life (hmmm why does this sound so right?).

A perfect partner on the other hand which I am sure most of the ladies are looking for is a man, who is able to adapt to different situations and balance between being a gentleman and an asshole without ever touching any of the extremes. Let admit it, how many times you dated a really sweet guy and wished him to be just a tit bit nastier? Where's the fun in always saying the right words... How the feck are you gonna rant to each other if everything is always perfect? Yes fights are nice and the best condiment for love if you ask me.

So what if we put things in right perspective and women in general stop looking for the perfect gentleman and start looking for what they really want? Maybe could be a good exercise deciding what you want before going out on your hunt... to many men end up heartbroken cause they date woman who dump them cause they dont know what they want. So make up your mind and go for the kill

This could be a whole lot longer - but I am too lazy to write anymore about something everyone already knows.

P.S. Looking for a perfect gentlewoman who can dine me, wine me, drive me and pay all the bills, in return i offer dirty talking and an awefull lot of love lol

With men's and women's roles changing in our society over the last 50 years who knows what a gentlemen is anymore?

I cant stand when women get all up tight and annoyed about men holding doors and offering to pay for a meal etc, as if it makes them weak. I am a very independant woman, but I love all the opening doors, letting a lady go first - its lovely and how I'd expect to be treated

I hold open a door for anyone - male, female, young, old - if they are walking thru it behind me. I think that kind of politeness cuts both ways. And when out I will always make sure we've decided who;s paying for what before the bill arrives, that way everyones happy and no one gets offended or embarrassed. My idea of a 'gentleman' is simply not being a total caveman - I've been on a date with a guy who sat farting and eating like a pig. If a woman wants a 'gentleman' then she has to be a lady - and its not just about knowing which fighting irons to use for the fish, its also about being *polite* back - offering to pay, hold the door if he's behind her, complimenting him where due etc. On the other hand, having been married I still believe that women should take the bulk of household chores and men should change the light bulbs and put the shelves up

Can anyone enlighten me as to *why* anyone (male or female really) would ever think a curteous action or intention was offensive? I just don't get it. A while back a man held the door open for a woman struggling with shopping bags and a small child and she snapped at him "I'm not DISABLED you know!!" Well, I had just that moment walked thru that door with an elbow crutch and I held the door for *him* because he was coming thru behind me. The poor man looked so shocked I wanted to say something to that woman I felt embarrassed for him.
So whats going on eh? What's offensive about anyone trying to be curteous these days? Has anybody here ever actually had it explained to them cuz I'm at a loss there!

[quote="RocketGirl"] A while back a man held the door open for a woman struggling with shopping bags and a small child and she snapped at him "I'm not DISABLED you know!!"

Thats not being independant, thats just down right rude and obnoxious.

Maybe she was just having a bad day or something?

still no need to be a cow just because someone held a door open for her ???


She either has a massive chip on her shoulder or an inferiority complex .... Or maybe she just HATES men ... still no need to be rude

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