my boyfriend says he loves me, he is younger than me. he says he has a high love drive, he wakes up early in the morning to have love conversations with some one on the phone.. i think. today i was unwell so couldnt sleep caught him with his phones naked in the front room not quite a hard on said he was watching men behaving badly am i paranoid.

First off, if he hasn't done anything but talk, then it isn't really cheating. Although it IS inappropriate.

Is there something that he wants that you aren't giving to him? He shouldn't resort to making you feel inadequate by talking to someone else sexually, but if you want it to last, you should ask him.

I hope that you sort things out.

I hope that he isn't cheating, that can be very hard.

Deception is him telling you that he can't be trusted.

be careful

I'd disagree with that, sure sounds like cheating to me.

naked in the front room with a semi in front of men behaving badly? He needs to get out more!

Thanks for your comments really cheered me up

If there's no other women [or man ] involved, sounds like a bit of a storm in a teacup to me. Sounds like a young man with an ever present erection, and I know a few women on these type sites that would like one of those

I love being 'caught out' [those woops moments ], and catching women I wouldnt be offended personally

I still disagree with you.

I think the message starting this thread was completely made up! But anyway, to go along with it (for the utterly perverted exercise): if a man is getting a semi-hard-on watching Martin Clunes' ears flapping in the wind, then that possibly explains why there's severely extraordinary behaviour afoot in this relationship... or maybe in the boyfriend's trouser department, half a foot. Even if I were gay, which I'm not, the thought of Martin Clunes' red, rubbery, blubberous lips slobbering all over my ring-piece and jelly-roll would probably drain the life out of any appendage attached to my body - possibly out of any appendage attached to anyone else's body I know too - even those of family pets. So my advice is: put a coat hanger in his semi-hard appendage, to help to firm it up and give it some shape; then, buy a trout in memory of Lesley Ash's lips. You may still have a crap relationship afterwards, but hey... at least it'll make life more interesting and - at the very least - profit fish mongery and support our fishing industry (and possibly even the haberdashery industry too).

It depends on who he is chatting too on the phone. if its a love chat line then its not cheating. But if its a girl he knows then it is cheating cause he shouldnt be doing love stuff with someone he knows if he is in a relationship. He probably wasnt watching the tv cause he was to busy on the phone. He got caught in the act so said he was watching tv to wiggle out of it. If he was chatting to someone he knows it means he is having love with them or plans on doing it soon.

i would consider that cheating if hes having phone love , whos to say hes not meeting this person in secret . jojo do ya self favour find some one who only needs to to get excited with not just in a sexual way .