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30.01.2010, 02:25 quote
I'd never cheat, if you aren't satisfied with someone then talk about it. Once you tell them there's something wrong you can either fix it or go your separate ways. Cheating is knowing there's something wrong and yet being too scared to talk, which means there's something you don't want to lose about the relationship you're in...some people are just scared of being alone I guess, they have to make sure there's someone to go to after, but that's just selfish.
I've been cheated on and to be honest I can't imagine anything being worse, if you have any respect for someone then don't cheat on them...if you have no respect then end it on that. I don't think it's more one love or another.
30.01.2010, 04:13 quote
Men in general don,t have the emotional connect w/love women seen to. Don,t believe pre-qualifies him as piggy material. Allow my fiance other women long as hes not being sneaky & slick about it.
| ellats wrote: |
| I've seen a man on here who describes himself as 'happily married' yet he's wanting sexual experiences with other people.
This depresses me enormously. If I fell in love with someone and he cheated on me it would break my heart. I just want to know if men have less morals about cheating than women, and how common is it? Do cheating men have a conscience or sense of hypocrisy? Please restore my faith in men. EllaTS xxx |
30.01.2010, 14:06 quote
| sugarcookiie wrote: | ||
Men in general don,t have the emotional connect w/love women seen to. Don,t believe pre-qualifies him as piggy material. Allow my fiance other women long as hes not being sneaky & slick about it.
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Everyone has different ideas and I know that some couples do make agreements about going off and experiencing 'the different' (that's what they call it). I don't see that as cheating if it's honestly been a joint decision may be because of differing sexual appetites or unmatched fantasies etc... but I agree with david0 really if there's respect everything ought to be out in the open.
There's plenty of cheating women too and a reason why many men are here on this site in the first place.
As for the 'emotional connection' I think that's more down to conditioning otherwise why would there be so many women wanting nice as well as men?
For me personally, I would just like to know where I stand regarding this before deciding to be intimate with somebody i.e. is it just love, a fantasy role play or of being a possible relationship
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01.02.2010, 12:23 quote
| sugarcookiie wrote: |
| Men in general don,t have the emotional connect w/love women seen to. |
This x1,000,000
In my experience it usually works like this; men use a relationship to get love, women use love to get a relationship. And people wonder why so much cheating goes on?
Theres a lot to be said for open relationships. I've had a couple and there was a far greater degree of trust and attachment than I've had with 'conventional' relationships.
03.02.2010, 12:24 quote
| kovacs wrote: |
| men use a relationship to get love, women use love to get a relationship |
Maybe true until you reach your 40/50's, then the roles probably reverse
03.02.2010, 12:49 quote
| jeggae wrote: |
Maybe true until you reach your 40/50's, then the roles probably reverse ![]() |
Yup. I'd definitely agree with that.
Probably explains why a lot of relationships where there is a huge age gap actually work.
03.02.2010, 13:08 quote
| kovacs wrote: | ||
Yup. I'd definitely agree with that. Probably explains why a lot of relationships where there is a huge age gap actually work. |
Was going to say in my previous post, that its a weird twist of nature..or maybe retribution from god??
Also explains why a lot of my mates have got divorced over the last ten years, and their ex wives have become teenagers again. Whilst the men just want quiet lives when they realise they struggle to rise to occasion. Mind doesn't always work over matter
But it easier to rise with a nice firm body, then a saggy one
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03.02.2010, 14:04 quote
Theres good biological reasons behind it when you think about it. Same as the different attitudes between men and women regarding love (though thank marry there are exceptions to the rule and not all women have succumbed to social conditioning).
I haven't yet noticed any difference in my love drive from when I was a teenager, but what experience has (sadly) taught me so far is that younger women are the future. They may not know what they want yet but by Christ do they have less baggage to contend with. There comes a time when you just get sick of clearing up the mess another arsehole has left behind.
Mother nature is, and always will be, a bitch though.
03.02.2010, 18:47 quote
All it takes is the right guy (woman) at the wrong moment. Regardless of your gender, if you've had a major argument and some charming little cunt comes over to you, makes you feel better, you'll end up cheating..again, regardless of gender. Though i'd say women cheat first, but men cheat with more.
03.02.2010, 23:02 quote
| ellats wrote: |
| I've seen a man on here who describes himself as 'happily married' yet he's wanting sexual experiences with other people.
This depresses me enormously. If I fell in love with someone and he cheated on me it would break my heart. I just want to know if men have less morals about cheating than women, and how common is it? Do cheating men have a conscience or sense of hypocrisy? Please restore my faith in men. EllaTS xxx |
infedelity and happily married CANNOT exist in my opinion, if you're happily married, you don't need to look elsewhere, if you're looking elsewhere, there's something very wrong with your relationship.
I can't understand why someone would happily jump into bed with another person, while knowing that their partner is at work / home unless they were looking for a reason to leave said person.
you might notice i haven't generalised - men do it, women do it. i just don't understand why..
i disagree quite strongly with what gj458 says, it doesn't have anything to do with the right person at the wrong time, there has to be that thought in your head in the first place to WANT to do it. it doesn't matter how charming someone is, shit i wouldn't even class having amnesia as an excuse.
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04.02.2010, 01:02 quote
There, have been some level headed responses stated in this thread.
The life experiences you will have, I do hope will show you to be true to yourself.
Not anger, but true pain of betrayal is almost unforgivable and definetly enlightining.
Three attributes have constantly remained present during the number of years working in and being witness to the many sides of the sexual industries.
Firstly, though desire can be intimate. Is not always sexual.
Secondly, everyone is at it.
Thirdly, be true to yourself. And I wish you all find someone(s) to share it with.
08.02.2010, 00:09 quote
| gypsymoon wrote: | ||
I don't believe there would EVER be a scenario that would make me cheat on a partner if we'd committed to each other, I don't mean marriage even, but it could be a hand-fasting or any other promise of commitment. If I love the person enough there's no way I would cheat, I wouldn't need to. |
To be honest i am with you on this one.
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