Its been happening often, I pass by couple and see them walking hand in hand, looking into each others eyes, and i get this hollow aching feeling and i just want to roll over and die.

What makes it worse is that everyone i was interested in, turned me down, and as for the reason, it just made me feel worse.

Its sucks to ever have to feel this way. How would u deal with this, (and just saying "get a gf" is not an answer)

Too right getting a GF is not the answer. Getting a new extra social circle probably is. Get on with life. Do new interesting things - by extension you're be new and interesting to folk - and meet new interesting people yourself. You'll realise you have more to offer than you thought, and get a proper sense or where you're at - they'll hear all your best stories. Is an easier way to feel apprieciated and freshen things up - and get the chance to do some favours for people.

Eventually date outside of the new social circle - use the self esteem it's given you propel you into further situations - dont contaminate the new group with the old sense of failure - from being knocked back, or compromising the friendships within.

To me there's little diffrence between a girl friend and a good friend - except in the former you fancy each other.

There's no point waiting, for something to happen. Cause when it does you will have rendered yourself too dependent and inhibited, it wont work.

This site is really a distraction for me at work. As a serious dating tool I wouldn't recommend it at all. Stick to the real world

Also keep and eye out for all the couples arguing or having nothing to say to each other. If you fill your time and enjoy being you, you'll enjoy being single - and when the right gal comes along you'll be relaxed ready to see what happens.
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"The tighter you grasp Lord Vader, the more it will slip through your fingers."

Wow its all been said above me, someone once told me you cant be loved until you love yourself, (if you dont love yo, how can you expect someone else too? or somat like that) and whilst i hated it at the time, now i kinda figure it makes sense,

I found ice skating did it for me, i love ice skating, (now i can stand up on the ice,) and i met some lovely ppl, and other mums, now i am skating even when i aint on the ice (too scared to fly but gliding will do for me)

stef