I met my bf when I had already been in England for a year. He seemed to be a sweet boy, I didn't want to know about relationships but step by step he won me...

We moved out together after a few months and have been together ever since. We have been dating for 2 years and 3months now... and it has never been easy.

He got into this habit of going for a few pints after work and not turning back home for the night, he doesn't even call me. I don't know what you guys think but if I get angry and scream at him or become cold for the rest of the week, he finds that as an excuse for 'escaping' again to the pub the week after. It's a bloody vicious circle.

Apparently I am meant to be happy and ignore the fact that he stays away once, sometimes even twice a week... he's just doing that now. He dissapeared on tuesday, and he won't be back home today.

I'ts very depressing. You must be wondering why I stick to it, I don't even know myself. We have pets in this flat we are sharing and I worry that if I go and rent a room somewhere I will have to sell them, I cant stand the thought of getting rid of my lil boys... I love my bf - or so I think, as he is killing me inside - but for how long do I need to go through this until I react? I'm 26 and want someone I can trust, someone who cares for me.

Sorry guys, I had to take this out of my chest.

I must have missed something in the story, you seem to be looking for a female partner on girlsweb, so I assume you’re looking for a way out of your relationship with your bf?


Edit: OK, I see you're only looking for # no idea! # just friends # a webcam chat on girlsweb, not a partner.

Yeh, that sounds logical. (Sorry, I only read your profile after I posted and guessed that was more or less what the story was).

I was wondering if the ‘problem’ with your bf is a bit more deep-seated than it appears on the surface. If he is aware of your bi-sexuality (I assume he is, if it is an honest relationship), then perhaps he finds the fact that you are socialising with girls on the net threatening and is taking evasive action, so as not to confront the issue with you?

why dont you find another man or find a hbby group... or make friends with neighbours etc

What samenomame says and if you are really worried about the animals then why not look into temporary accomodation for them till you get yourself sorted out with a new place

I'll 'look after' em for ya....

I looked at your page and you are not into drinking at all just like me. It seems to be the culture over here in england. They tend to drink more than what you, and I, are use to. I can't, and won't, get the hang of it as i do not see any point in hanging out in a pub getting hammered every weekend. To be honest i would rather hang out here as i am too tired to go out dancing sometimes because i have put on too many miles on the bike. Granted, if i was with somebody i would not commit so much time to the bike and devote more of my time to the lady in question. It's all about what you deem more valuable in your life and for him this just might be the pub with his buddies.

I have some friends who always complain bout their relationships, but stick with the men because they say they lurve them...
I for one could never understand why someone would do that. It's just a question of love. If you love someone you love them with all your heart and never complain no matter what, for there's no person without flaws... But love usually conquers everything, that's why a lot of women stick around guys who beat them. If you don't love them or feel you can't take the relationship no more, just move on...
I hate it when women stick around a guy, just because they get used to the relationship and mistake it for love or family though they feel completely unsatisfied.
As for the pets... I'm sure you could find a place to take them with ya. The answer's really inside of you. It always is.
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