The best thing to do is get a crush on somebody else - that's the easiest way, unless there's no-one to have a crush on. Or to find out about person or persons who have a crush on you.

The problem is you cant really make yourself have a crush on someone, maybe that has been tried. You either are attracted to someone or you aren't. The obsession you have on the person could be so overpowering that no one is good enough to have a crush on, or even really be attracted too.

But then that is probably more then a crush, more like some sort of obsessive problem.

I'm going through the same situation right now. I liked this guy for almost 2 years. We worked together and became great friends. About 6 months ago he texted me, invited me over to his house and told me that he really liked me. One thing lead to another....

Then about a week later he said that he was in a bad place and wasn't ready for a relationship. I had a feeling that I was a rebound, it still hurt but I managed to let it go. Then about 2 weeks after that I got another text asking if we could maybe keep it casual. I said no straight away but the texts kept coming and eventually i started thinking "what am I doing depriving myself, surely i can have a little fun" So being a total idiot I caved. Then the whole situation replayed itself out all over again, the break up, the let's just be friends, the how about being friends with benefits, blah blah woof woof.

So now I have this huge crush on a guy who is pretty much my best friend and i know what it feels like to sleep with him and I can't move on. I wish i could give you advice on what to do but it's pretty obvious that I'm as clueless as it gets when it comes to relationships. I guess we just have to wait for that moment when we become normal again.

It's pretty much impossible to reject people these days. Everyone is so afraid of rejection that they can't ask the questions in the first place. Everything gets lost in translation and no one really know where they stand.

find another crush!

i find getting over 'crushes' easy - i either read - or write, pre-occupy'ing my mind with something on a different thought trail makes it easier. I've always found that if i'm trying not to think about someone / something, that's it easier to cut yourself off from anything relevant to it until you no longer think about said thing, or atleast can think about it without feeling sad about it.
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