heya
erm i need some advice on something
ive just come out of a long term relationship with a girl im still madly in love with, and i want her back but dont know how to go about it.
i cry every day over her, and i havent slpet or eaten very well.
i just want her back so bad, and i dont know what to do.
im so depressed, and i feel so empty without her.
what should i do??

I'm afraid these things can only mend with time.

You say you want her back, but don't know how to go about it. If you tell us why you broke up it will be easier to give you some advice.

well she said to me she justs needs a break from everything because her great aunt died, but i dont understand what i have done wrong for her to wanna end it with me, i was there when she died, and i comforted her, and she said thatnk you for everything, and i didnt see it coming, i thougth everything was ok, but she ended it, and the hardest bit was, was that she did it over the phone, and spoke to her mum about it, not to me

Was this your first big love??

It sounds like there is a lot going on in her life at the moment. It wasn't very fair of her to break up with you over the phone.

I think that you should take this as an advantage to take some time for yourself. In the future you can always approach her and ask her if she will talk about what happened so that you can have some closure.

A few weeks ago my ex mum in law died. I was with her when she passed away. I loved her very much.
One of the first things I did afterwards was re-evaluate my life, sunk into great depression, cut off all who tried to comfort me, dumped my boyfriend of 5 yrs, refused to answer the phone when my own mother rang......
What I am saying is this. Give her time to grieve in her own way. If she does not want/will not accept your offers of comfort etc. Leave her be.
This will sound harsh, but her bereavement may have made her realise that you are not the man for her, or she may just need to keep the emotional barriers up for a while and come back to you when she is not so 'needy' (which, for some - like me - when they are feeling 'needy' they back off and withdraw into their shell until those 'needy' feelings pass).
I hope it all works out well for you.

My advice is to force yourself out of the house and go for a walk, even on the weakest pretext.

Look for things you really enjoy doing, maybe even things that she wasn't into herself. For example, I might go to the cinema and watch a nice, cheering zombie film (real life is always better than the events in a conventional zombie apocalypse).

Essentially try to recharge your own batteries so if she wants to get back with you you're not too miserable for her to face.

Plenty of exercise helps with sleep & exercise, lots of sad romance music (a friend of mine swears by Elvis for this kind of thing) can work emotions out of your system and finding new things to do can help you move on.

Good luck!

Above are answers from some of the wisest people I know. I wish you luck mate

Because of that I wish Ed luck.

If I were you I would start sleeping, eating and get some tissues because if she does not want you back there is nothing you can do.

I'd be a bit more optimistic than snaith, just give her some space for a while and see how it goes

I believe in optimism but also realism, you should never raise false hope to someone in a delicate state.