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09.11.2008, 14:32 quote

rocketgirl

Surely love must choose/find us?
Did anybody ever pick someone out of a bus queue or whatever and say, "I'm going to LOVE that person and live with them happy ever after"?
No, it starts with lust, friendship etc. and even an arranged marriage can survive many happy years with lots of kids.
From experience, I have wanted desperately to remove myself from someone emotionally but as long as those feelings of love are there.......No chance!
Love is an emotion.
We cannot turn emotions on and off like a tap.
We can blot emotions out by keeping busy, avoiding that person, launching into a Rebound relationship....but until maybe those emotions die a natural death due to neglect, those feelings will never go away *because you deleted them consciously*.
So I think love chooses us.
Although, we can decide NOT to choose love, by avoiding committed relationships etc.

 

09.11.2008, 16:04 quote

bexbex

In my experience i have found love when i have least expected it and when i haven't been looking for it. And yes, i could have chosen to walk away from that but i didn't and at the time it was wonderful.

So i do think it finds us, especially when we've got our backs turned against it.

 

02.04.2009, 13:27 quote

sc0ttie

I think it is a mixture of both. If you are out in the world meeting people then you stand more chance of love finding you. If you are bed ridden, housebound etc then you have less chance of love finding you.

Also you could go out and meet hundreds of people a day yet still love might not find you because you may be giving off anti social vibes. Like Stonecastle and his dating/pulling techniques Laughing

 
 
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