Do y'all seriously realize how silly this is?

Are you even SUGGESTING that Fat women shouldn't go for FIT MEN? Isn't that some way of saying uhm... You're fat, you shouldn't ask for what you can't have? Or you're fat, you shouldn't ask for someone opposite to you? Or... You're fat... You should stick to your league? LOL Goodness... If only Michael Madsen could hear you (sorry. I need to use an expression, and baloney seemed unsuitable).

However... Why women as species don't want fat blokes... That's a whole different subject and it can be just as debated as why men don't want fat women. Or why men want fat chicks can be as debatable as why women want fat blokes, you dig?


Again... I don't believe there is ANYONE wanting ANYTHING in particular. Truth is... If you get to know a person, one way or another, you may accept them just as they are, even if they're not your type.

And if you don't get to know them and you just go on the streets whistling for babes and guys... Then you'll probably whistle after what the surrounding environment taught you. As in, you dig your math teacher in 4th grade, you'll dig guys with a moustache. Commercials on tv have constantly shown you that you should dig guys with muscles, you dig guys with muscles... You fell in love with your neighbour once and he was fat... You might dig fat. It's hard to know what one's beliefs and likes are... But almost everyone watches tv and follows the internet. So what you see there as appealing or connected to appealing stuff... That probably is (for lots of minds - not all of them though) what is appealing. Like for example what y'all said about the BBW, that the subject got all important and now it's all about BBW. Well apparently there were lots of people loving the BBW and lots of BBWs too and that's where the need for a sort of club appeared. There are lots of BBMs too... But where are there fans? Why don't y'all start a group.

It is as it is... Isn't it?

p.s. I don't believe there's an actual BIG guy around here on the forums. You're not so big Jeggae so... As for the ladies... I specifically remember you saying that there was a good number of good women coming after you which you just refused. As for you, Mussy... Oh, Mussy... Seriously.

Anyway this whole thing about who the fat chicks should go for... That is TOTAL BALONEY.
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It’s all about proportion (innit….. )

From a personal point of view (i.e. related to my own size), my BMI is 25.3. I am slightly over-weight (from sitting a desk all day and scoffing Galaxy Minstrels whilst I’m there); I don’t really care all that much. However, if my gut got that big that I couldn’t see my todger, I’d do something about it (and I don’t mean get a penis enlargement ), mainly because my clothes wouldn’t fit very well anymore.

On the other hand, others might find other aspects of my body gross, but I wouldn’t do anything about just to please someone else.

Apply the same logic to body size. If one is happy about their size and doesn’t really care what others think……………




/* Incidentally, and bearing in mind my previous neutral comments earlier in the thread (especially with regard to Mrs Darkhorse), if one *is* happy about their size and doesn’t really care what others think, why would they feel the need for assurance by asking the question in the first place? (with the obvious exception of soliciting discussion) */

Um, going back to original question, or part of it.... eh, what;'s that bit all about?!?

Being 'good in bed' has nothing to do with size (lack thereof, or abundance thereof). One is either 'good in bed' or not, and even then it is relative to the person that they are in bed with, is it not? After all, ones current partner might think one is exceptional in bed, the next might think one is shite is in bed. It takes two (or more ) to be 'good in bed' (I've heard the 'shite in bed' thing before, and it often boils down to 'well don't lie there like a sack of potatoes and expect me to do all the work then')

i think bigger women are beautiful. as i big girl myself i no alot of men prefer to be with a size 0 model to look better infront of there mates or they hide u from there mates as they are embassed of u

but i think ppl should look inside not outside

plenty of fit men like plump ladies and I know fit women that like their cuddly men too so go for whatever you like, maybe it's your own attitude that prevents what you want from happening. That's what I think to no one in particular.
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right i havnt really read any of the other replys cause basically it is too long and i am a busy guy but in anser too our question " is big beautiful"
i say too you

"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder"

Do I think big is beautiful? Good question...there is no easy answer for me. I am a larger lady with plenty of curves and I think I'm okay....but it would probably only take a couple of blokes to tell me I'm ugly....and I might begin to believe them. How sad is that?
I grew up with bullies telling me I was never going to get a boyfriend, funny how things pan out lol.
Regarding guys, I have very little preference regarding size or looks. If a guy can make me laugh and feel special, if he can show me he really cares....then he could be the guy for me! As far as I'm concerned he could look like Quasimodoes uglier little brother but he would have to want me for me!
Beauty isn't skin deep as far as I'm concerned!
Denise

I agree with most of the people on here. Big can be beautiful, but so can thin. I think there are extremes on either end of the scale, bony women and women so big they can no longer walk etc... and then to me (and it is just personal preference...) thats not nice.

But it depends on who you are, what you like and how you project yourself.

Good luck with dating lonely!

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