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I don't really know where you are with this topic... But just wanted to comment on the overall Question..


I've only ever been with big guys..

Its not anything to be bothered about and if someone was to turn you down because of it they're obviously just very vein..

I've always felt really safe with someone bigger than me .. Just overall generally attracted to bigger men maybes..

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Have a nice evening all x

"Lack of confidence is a huge turn-off and women can pick up on it like sharks can smell blood in water. So while they're saying 'oh I really like a man with a bit of meat on him' they probably mean it, and they really do like you; they just don't find you attractive in a sexual way. You're nice, cuddly and probably remind them of their dad (yes, he went there) but they're highly unlikely to whisk you off your feet (well, not in Earth's gravity anyway)".

Spot on. I've known some really chubby chaps with heaps of self-confidence who I have been very attracted to. Lack of self-confidence, whatever a person's size, really does put me off.
But shyness can be quite cute, which is something else again...

I was really meaning before getting to know someone. Like on the forums, online etc. If the only part of a person's personality that shines through from the first moment is lack of self-confidence, it can be really hard work to get past that, and unless there is something else that stands out as worth the effort, I dont think it is.
First impressions last. So the saying goes.
I think to be honest, when I say "lack of self-confidence" what I really mean is lack of self-awareness and/or negativity about self.
which isnt really self-confidence as such at all.
A person can be confident enough to know and voice their own imperfections without putting themselves down and being pessimistic about it.

Yes I agree, lack of self-confidence can be very debilitating, but in that case, is that person really ready to embark on a new relationship? It would be doomed to failure if you ask me, the other person from day one their job would be to prop up and bolster the other person. Not a healthy start for either person concerned.
So from that point of view, no I dont think it is my loss, I see that as a lucky escape.
Sorry that sounds harsh, I myself am not in a good place to be thinking about a new relationship, which is why I am just here for the forums until I feel that I have something good and positive to offer anyone. (if at all).[/list]

Exactly. If you don't like/love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to?

Maybe. I've never believed the sexes are equal.
Men are the protectors, and all that jazz.
A man is more likely to be attracted to the female wallflower, the male wallflower wont get noticed, or taken seriously/given a chance?

I like big guys! Lov them..... much beta then a skinny lil twig!! I dated a slim guys few yrs bk....its was horrible, e had no ass or anythin like dat. Such a turn off! I ave bin wiv a podgey guy aswel n da love was gr8! Best eva. Honest girlies....big is beta!!! Whoop whoop!

Speaking from experience I think us big guys can pique the interest of some women , once we can talk to them and let them get to know us. However, whether they actually want fat guys is a difficult one. I think it's the initial attraction thing that is the hurdle for most women, if you were to be in a bar, you'd likely scan for potential partners and since we all have that "biological imperative" to choose well, you'd also likely look right through us fatties and see only the "hunks". That's a generalisation of course but for the most part I think true. Even here on flirtbox and such sites you'll see that an honest picture won't yield results compared to a photo of a six pack. So I would have to say no, women don't want fat men, they may however "take a chance" on one. It's not a great feeling though. I'm yet to find a woman who is actually attracted because I'm a fat bloke. I would like to pose a question though. How fat is fat and can we define a limit?