Maybe. I've never believed the sexes are equal.
Men are the protectors, and all that jazz.
A man is more likely to be attracted to the female wallflower, the male wallflower wont get noticed, or taken seriously/given a chance?

[quote="darren1971"]Speaking from experience I think us big guys can pique the interest of some women , once we can talk to them and let them get to know us. However, whether they actually want fat guys is a difficult one. I think it's the initial attraction thing that is the hurdle for most women, if you were to be in a bar, you'd likely scan for potential partners and since we all have that "biological imperative" to choose well, you'd also likely look right through us fatties and see only the "hunks". That's a generalisation of course but for the most part I think true. Even here on flirtbox and such sites you'll see that an honest picture won't yield results compared to a photo of a six pack. So I would have to say no, women don't want fat men, they may however "take a chance" on one. It's not a great feeling though. I'm yet to find a woman who is actually attracted because I'm a fat bloke. I would like to pose a question though. How fat is fat and can we define a limit?[/quote]

No we can't. Everyone has a different definition of that.

Cheekycornwal, I have a hypothetical question for ya:

If the skinny twig had a bigger dick than the pudgey guy, and was more experienced/interesting in bed, and was more interesting outside of bed too.....would you prefer twigs to pudge?


My apologies, I did try to write this in that weird language, but I am crap at it. Hope this will suffice.

I lived in the west indies for a couple of years when I was 7 or so. I very easily picked up Patwa speaking with the local kids but this new-fangled written stuff is beyond me!

Just from the point of view of looking and thinking "wow he's rather yummy" I guess the likes of John Candy's size is about my limit.
Or that Goodman guy who played Fred Flinstone.
But then, I once knew a guy who was so overweight he huffed and puffed just walking a few steps, wore slip on shoes cuz he couldnt tie laces etc. He was quite handsome when he smiled and had a fantastic personality and we shared some interests (talking about, at least)...I would have been happy to pursue a relationship but he would have had to make the effort to lose some weight otherwise it wouldnt have worked would it? His problem was Fork In Mouth Syndrome, sadly the more I got to know him the more I realised how deep seated his issues were and it was destined not to work out because was not ready to take better care of himself.
Although I like to see a bit of chunk, if a guy isnt taking good care of himself (and that includes the underweight/very unhealthy in other ways guys) it is not an attractive trait to me.
Also, when I was a photographer doing local body builder shows I am really turned off by all that muscle, although I think Stallone is handsome and I like his films (ditto Van Damme) I would never give someone a second glance who had that kind of body. Yuck!
And skin and bone makes me shudder. I wouldn't know whether to try to cuddle him and risk breaking his ribs or play a tune on them!