Love & Relationships >> Do women want fat blokes???

01.07.2008, 09:52 quote

funkychick1

redelicious wrote:

jeggae wrote:

On the 'Do you think big is beautiful?' thread, I dont see many women saying they like fat blokes. RG is about the only one that I can see, sorry if I missed someone. We have had a few 'Do men like big women' threads, and most men are always reassuring and positive.

From what I can see though, big [fat] women get a better response on forums then fat men as far as flirting is concerned. Fat men get a lot of laughs and sympathy. But the men with 'athletic and toned' or 'slim' get all the real action. Seems double standards to me.

Do women want it both ways?..How many women are actively looking or at least interested in fat men?

Don't knock the ability to make a woman laugh Jeggae. Athletic may get the initial 'phwoar' but the laughs will get 'em into your bed!

As for mens size/shape, I can only speak for myself. I prefer a man with meat on him, something I can grab a hold of. Even so, it's still the personality that finalizes the decision.

Red, could not agree more .......

If i am honest though not really in to the 'phwaor' types myself, or i am into really big guys. some where in between, but they defo have to make me laugh.

Robin you referred to all the 'fit/slim' guys that get all the flirting, dont think that is due to size or looks, but confidence, everyone knows i am not a 'fit' girl as some would like to say, but i am full of confidence, there a few types of 'fat people',

1.those you dont care, try dieting now and then, but love themselves how they are.

2.those who moan and do nothing about it.

3. and those for whatever reason, sometimes medical, are struck with there size and try and make the most of what they have got

Obviously we all live in the real world and bigger people will always have less poeple to choose from when it comes to relationships, but hey you know what, it's fun looking ........

01.07.2008, 10:19 quote

jeggae

funkychick1 wrote:

redelicious wrote:

jeggae wrote:

On the 'Do you think big is beautiful?' thread, I dont see many women saying they like fat blokes. RG is about the only one that I can see, sorry if I missed someone. We have had a few 'Do men like big women' threads, and most men are always reassuring and positive.

From what I can see though, big [fat] women get a better response on forums then fat men as far as flirting is concerned. Fat men get a lot of laughs and sympathy. But the men with 'athletic and toned' or 'slim' get all the real action. Seems double standards to me.

Do women want it both ways?..How many women are actively looking or at least interested in fat men?

Don't knock the ability to make a woman laugh Jeggae. Athletic may get the initial 'phwoar' but the laughs will get 'em into your bed!

As for mens size/shape, I can only speak for myself. I prefer a man with meat on him, something I can grab a hold of. Even so, it's still the personality that finalizes the decision.

Red, could not agree more .......

If i am honest though not really in to the 'phwaor' types myself, or i am into really big guys. some where in between, but they defo have to make me laugh.

Robin you referred to all the 'fit/slim' guys that get all the flirting, dont think that is due to size or looks, but confidence, everyone knows i am not a 'fit' girl as some would like to say, but i am full of confidence, there a few types of 'fat people',

1.those you dont care, try dieting now and then, but love themselves how they are.

2.those who moan and do nothing about it.

3. and those for whatever reason, sometimes medical, are struck with there size and try and make the most of what they have got

Obviously we all live in the real world and bigger people will always have less poeple to choose from when it comes to relationships, but hey you know what, it's fun looking ........

The point is Ann-Marie, when I first came on this and the other site a couple years ago, I didn't have a picture up. I had fun, was going all over the forums, and got involved in a fair bit of flirting and got women laughing. Some might remember it if they think back.

As soon as I put my picture up is all changed and I started to get ignored. Including by some women still posting on here now. Maybe its because I'm ugly or because I'm fat. Not sure I'm that ugly.

But one women who I was having a lot of laughs with before said 'I dont chat to fat men'.

My first picture wasnt that flattering, but it was honest. Maybe I should have put an artistic picture up that bore no resemblance to me? Some women to me seem suckers for photo's.

I have a fair bit of confidence in real life, and I did on these forums. The reason I dont post isn't because of confidence.

Okay these are only forums, and how much they are like real life is debatable.

I'm still not convinced that a women who had the choice between a fat person and a fit person, would pick the fat person....as some men would.

..and as I said I have been both.

01.07.2008, 10:50 quote

rocketgirl

My God Robin you've come across some shallow women here then! Stopped talking to you because they saw your photo?!
And when that woman (no i cant call her a lady) said sorry i dont chat to fat blokes, I TRUST your reply to her was "Thats ok cuz I dont chat with rude, stuck-up bitches". At worst, she could have just said "you're not my type but i appreciate your interest, end of".
For the record, I started chatting with you BECAUSE of your photo, even though its ended up just a really nice friendship, I liked what I saw. So there. Razz

(and yeah, i know i'm contrary but yes i do go for 'fat over fit').
I ONCE had my eye on a bloke who was a bit of a gym freak, only cuz he chased me, but i soon came to realise that he was usually sneaking a look in the mirror behind my head when we spoke and he spent more time than a woman in the bathroom preparing to go out, dithered about Should i wear the white t-shirt or the red t-shirt with my new tan?....nah, i'd rather a bloke who yes of course cares what he looks like, but not a ruddy peacock thanks, just someone who enjoys his grub will do me, and has some chub to cuddle up to.

01.07.2008, 11:07 quote

jeggae

rocketgirl wrote:

My God Robin you've come across some shallow women here then! Stopped talking to you because they saw your photo?!
And when that woman (no i cant call her a lady) said sorry i dont chat to fat blokes, I TRUST your reply to her was "Thats ok cuz I dont chat with rude, stuck-up bitches". At worst, she could have just said "you're not my type but i appreciate your interest, end of".
For the record, I started chatting with you BECAUSE of your photo, even though its ended up just a really nice friendship, I liked what I saw. So there. Razz

Although it didn't bother me too much, I wasnt happy as she was someone who was telling me how good my personality was before, and how much fun I was on the forums and to chat to. She was also talking about wanting to meet me....but she probably lived a bit far away down south.

As I said some of the women that changed, still post on here now.

One didn't change at all, so all respect to her.

01.07.2008, 11:47 quote

lonelyheart10

Joined: 05 May 2008 Posts: 22 Location: South Africa, Gauteng, City of Johannesburg

I just want to say.... I Love Big, bulky, fat guys!
I'm overweight myself and prefer that the man I'm dating is either the same size or bigger than me. I want to feel his arms around me... keep me warm at night... Enjoy a good meal with me... I love cooking... and appreciates a man that loves good food.
So yeah... where do I find this guy? Still looking Very Happy

01.07.2008, 11:54 quote

funkychick1

jeggae wrote:

funkychick1 wrote:

redelicious wrote:

jeggae wrote:

On the 'Do you think big is beautiful?' thread, I dont see many women saying they like fat blokes. RG is about the only one that I can see, sorry if I missed someone. We have had a few 'Do men like big women' threads, and most men are always reassuring and positive.

From what I can see though, big [fat] women get a better response on forums then fat men as far as flirting is concerned. Fat men get a lot of laughs and sympathy. But the men with 'athletic and toned' or 'slim' get all the real action. Seems double standards to me.

Do women want it both ways?..How many women are actively looking or at least interested in fat men?

Don't knock the ability to make a woman laugh Jeggae. Athletic may get the initial 'phwoar' but the laughs will get 'em into your bed!

As for mens size/shape, I can only speak for myself. I prefer a man with meat on him, something I can grab a hold of. Even so, it's still the personality that finalizes the decision.

Red, could not agree more .......

If i am honest though not really in to the 'phwaor' types myself, or i am into really big guys. some where in between, but they defo have to make me laugh.

Robin you referred to all the 'fit/slim' guys that get all the flirting, dont think that is due to size or looks, but confidence, everyone knows i am not a 'fit' girl as some would like to say, but i am full of confidence, there a few types of 'fat people',

1.those you dont care, try dieting now and then, but love themselves how they are.

2.those who moan and do nothing about it.

3. and those for whatever reason, sometimes medical, are struck with there size and try and make the most of what they have got

Obviously we all live in the real world and bigger people will always have less poeple to choose from when it comes to relationships, but hey you know what, it's fun looking ........

The point is Ann-Marie, when I first came on this and the other site a couple years ago, I didn't have a picture up. I had fun, was going all over the forums, and got involved in a fair bit of flirting and got women laughing. Some might remember it if they think back.

As soon as I put my picture up is all changed and I started to get ignored. Including by some women still posting on here now. Maybe its because I'm ugly or because I'm fat. Not sure I'm that ugly.

But one women who I was having a lot of laughs with before said 'I dont chat to fat men'.

My first picture wasnt that flattering, but it was honest. Maybe I should have put an artistic picture up that bore no resemblance to me? Some women to me seem suckers for photo's.

I have a fair bit of confidence in real life, and I did on these forums. The reason I dont post isn't because of confidence.

Okay these are only forums, and how much they are like real life is debatable.

I'm still not convinced that a women who had the choice between a fat person and a fit person, would pick the fat person....as some men would.

..and as I said I have been both.

I totally agree with all you have said Robin, and i hope i wasn;t included in the one of the ones ignored once your pic went up

all i am trying to say dont let people get you down, maybe they dont, but believe me there are just as many shallow men as women, and i know your have confidence in real life.

Can i ask one question though, What type of woman do you go for ???

xx Razz

01.07.2008, 13:33 quote

cheekykev

Hope its not me your referring to Jegs, we didnt get on that well at first and had a few arguments/ disagreements on the board, but it was nothing to do with how you looked or what size you were. I'm probably one of the few that have been on here a while and wouldnt like others thinking it was me that was that shallow

Just had to get that off my ample chest Very Happy

01.07.2008, 15:09 quote

redelicious

Joined: 19 Feb 2008 Posts: 1609 Location: United Kingdom, England, Lincolnshire

cheekykev wrote:

Hope its not me your referring to Jegs, we didnt get on that well at first and had a few arguments/ disagreements on the board, but it was nothing to do with how you looked or what size you were. I'm probably one of the few that have been on here a while and wouldnt like others thinking it was me that was that shallow

Just had to get that off my ample chest Very Happy

Now we're all going to be paranoid Laughing

From what I can remember you've always been honest with everyone, including Jegs.

Personally my fave pic of Jegs was his last one. I've always preferred seeing who I'm talking to whether it's for 'friendship' or more. I just like features.
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01.07.2008, 15:48 quote

jeggae

funkychick1 wrote:

jeggae wrote:

funkychick1 wrote:

redelicious wrote:

jeggae wrote:

On the 'Do you think big is beautiful?' thread, I dont see many women saying they like fat blokes. RG is about the only one that I can see, sorry if I missed someone. We have had a few 'Do men like big women' threads, and most men are always reassuring and positive.

From what I can see though, big [fat] women get a better response on forums then fat men as far as flirting is concerned. Fat men get a lot of laughs and sympathy. But the men with 'athletic and toned' or 'slim' get all the real action. Seems double standards to me.

Do women want it both ways?..How many women are actively looking or at least interested in fat men?

Don't knock the ability to make a woman laugh Jeggae. Athletic may get the initial 'phwoar' but the laughs will get 'em into your bed!

As for mens size/shape, I can only speak for myself. I prefer a man with meat on him, something I can grab a hold of. Even so, it's still the personality that finalizes the decision.

Red, could not agree more .......

If i am honest though not really in to the 'phwaor' types myself, or i am into really big guys. some where in between, but they defo have to make me laugh.

Robin you referred to all the 'fit/slim' guys that get all the flirting, dont think that is due to size or looks, but confidence, everyone knows i am not a 'fit' girl as some would like to say, but i am full of confidence, there a few types of 'fat people',

1.those you dont care, try dieting now and then, but love themselves how they are.

2.those who moan and do nothing about it.

3. and those for whatever reason, sometimes medical, are struck with there size and try and make the most of what they have got

Obviously we all live in the real world and bigger people will always have less poeple to choose from when it comes to relationships, but hey you know what, it's fun looking ........

The point is Ann-Marie, when I first came on this and the other site a couple years ago, I didn't have a picture up. I had fun, was going all over the forums, and got involved in a fair bit of flirting and got women laughing. Some might remember it if they think back.

As soon as I put my picture up is all changed and I started to get ignored. Including by some women still posting on here now. Maybe its because I'm ugly or because I'm fat. Not sure I'm that ugly.

But one women who I was having a lot of laughs with before said 'I dont chat to fat men'.

My first picture wasnt that flattering, but it was honest. Maybe I should have put an artistic picture up that bore no resemblance to me? Some women to me seem suckers for photo's.

I have a fair bit of confidence in real life, and I did on these forums. The reason I dont post isn't because of confidence.

Okay these are only forums, and how much they are like real life is debatable.

I'm still not convinced that a women who had the choice between a fat person and a fit person, would pick the fat person....as some men would.

..and as I said I have been both.

I totally agree with all you have said Robin, and i hope i wasn;t included in the one of the ones ignored once your pic went up

all i am trying to say dont let people get you down, maybe they dont, but believe me there are just as many shallow men as women, and i know your have confidence in real life.

Can i ask one question though, What type of woman do you go for ???

xx Razz

Nope wasnt you Ann-Marie. But there's never really been that much banter between us, not sure why that is. Cant remember if you started before or after I put my first picture up.

Not sure what I'm after now, as its probably changed as I got older. But I have been with all colours, shapes and sizes. Cool

The present lady that I might be embarking on something with is large, and did point this out to me and more or less apologised for being so. But as I said, I'm large myself Smile

But I have always been active and like dancing and clubbing, but I'm probably getting too old for that. Laughing

The women I'd like is probably large but is willing to lose it. That way we could motivate each other to keep fit. Mainly to stop my doctor moaning.

I've always thought that inside every large person is a slim person wanting to get out. Surprised

01.07.2008, 15:57 quote

jeggae

cheekykev wrote:

Hope its not me your referring to Jegs, we didnt get on that well at first and had a few arguments/ disagreements on the board, but it was nothing to do with how you looked or what size you were. I'm probably one of the few that have been on here a while and wouldnt like others thinking it was me that was that shallow

Just had to get that off my ample chest Very Happy

Nope it wasnt you Claudia. We got on okay first before the big arguments on the boards, then there were problems between us. But that was long before I put my picture up.

Dont think I'll answer anymore enquiries on this matter Surprised

01.07.2008, 23:39 quote

cheekykev

thanks Jegs for clarifying that .. i've nothing against you ........looks?..... fit or fat? colour?.... size of your bobby? heehee

Its like the majority of the females on here have said .. personality, and the ability to make us laugh shines through more than looks anyday

02.07.2008, 00:10 quote

choochi0

Joined: 13 May 2008 Posts: 5482 Location: United Kingdom, England, Sussex

I can certainly say that I prefer a man with some meat on his bones. I like something to hold on to - much better then skin and bones!!!

10.07.2008, 04:10 quote

jmdieff

I read/saw somewhere that women like guys with round faces because they look like better husbands/fathers. If a guy is toned sure he'll be fun to date and go out with, but in the long run a woman won't want him.

A larger guy, on the other hand, will probably not date around as much, but focus on more long term relationships. (This all depends on personality of course, but that's how I see it.)

10.07.2008, 12:02 quote

rocketgirl

jmdief - please could you explain the reasons behind your thoughts that a larger man will probably not date around as much, but focus on long term relationships? That is truly bizarre thinking, if you dont mind me saying. Apart from the fact you then tack on the end 'depending on personality', which pretty much negates your theory anyway!!

10.07.2008, 12:38 quote

pinkpolo121

Joined: 20 Jun 2008 Posts: 9 Location: United Kingdom, Wales, Mid Glamorgan

girls/women do like bigger men there is nothing wrong with them in my experience all men i have dated have been like it.
but there again i go for whats on the inside. i could find a guy 2 foot 3 bright yellow and i wouldnt give a crap id love him for who he is inside and out.

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