heres my story: i met my guy thru the internet in 2001. We were in love love then i was 16 he was 15 yrs old. The only thing was he was portuguese and i was yugoslavian and macedonian. He talked to me all the time even when we got cellphones an everything. Im gonna make this short or at least try to. Well after i finished high school i moved with him at his house. Lived there three years couldnt find a job at all. His parents always hoped he would find a girl of his nationality. His mother was a neat freak. she always cleaned. an got her bad moods from cleaning. Well me an him got into fights all the time an he got his job at toys r us. He would tell me he cant bring me bowling its only for people who work wit him that was a lie. he started to lie to me so i got a ticket home an left. When i got home he told me he needed space. So i said why he said he wasnt dumping me he needed space cuz he was failing school i took it as he broke up with me.
He didnt talk to me for at least a year but started playing mind games he made a myspace started putting girls from work on his top list flirting with them commenting this one portuguese girl calling her pics beautiful an making sure i saw it. So i started hanging out with guys putting them on my top list pretending not to care even though it hurt me so much what he was doing there was months in which i would just cry because of it. So he got jealous i started hanging with one guy in particular an would call my phone after a year to say his toys r us was robbed an he thought of how much he really loved me. Sometimes i think about it now it made me think he didnt want me with anyone else but he could do what he wanted. So months passed we got in fights again as we talked he took off all those girls an deleted their numbers an started to regret what he did. The particular girl he commented over myspace her name was kayla. Ill tell u more about her later.

So i moved back this june over here in hopes to give him a second chance because we dated seven years an its hard for me to just let go an him the same..or i hope. Hes the one that wanted it. He said he regretted everything that happened last year he was an idiot an hopes to start a new he wished he had never told me he wanted the space. So months went by things were good. He dropped me off to my classes in september till i found out instead of him having a myspace he started having a facebook and behind my back. I had a weird gut feeling this is too good to be true and i checked kaylas facebook an found out after i added her to my fake facebook i made to be sure. He was commenting her like a day before i added her saying comments like: when are we going to play pool so you can show me those pool skillz of yours smile. An another comment i miss hanging out with you.

He even commented her pictures to say i like this picture an your eyes look nice. I blew up. Because it shows the times he did it an while i came back there again!
I confronted him about it. He would do this when he dropped me to my class he ran to the school library an did it. I confronted the girl over facebook i wrote her an email. They work together an since i been here its been eight months he has never still taken me to his work but he comes to mine whenever he likes. He tells me why should i go to a baby toy store. Pisses me off. He started panicking an crying i told him i would fly back home that hes a fucken liar to me. Lying to me while im here an hes like she was going through a hard time with her boyfriend i was trying to cheer her up. Cheer her up my fucking ass. I was screaming to the top of my lungs he was on his hands an knees begging me an shit an she emailed me saying he was talking to her at work almost all the time an that he liked her for a year an still does. i asked him about that too he said she was lying he never liked her..right.

A few days ago his sister told me the truth. Last year he liked kayla an told his sister. So he would take kayla out ice skating cuz she hinted it but the thing about her was that she was a tease. An she would give him mixed signals like oh i cant like u i have a boyfriend i dont wanna hurt my boyfriends feelings an he never liked that cuz she was weird. So i dont know. He tried to get her but she was taken an im thinking because of the fact that she was having problems wit her bf while i was here he ran to the chance to make her feel good. Why couldnt he ever do that for me i dont know. I feel ugly what does this bitch have that i dont? I dont know. shes portuguese like him.

Now he locks his computer hides his phone while im here. Hes alright sometimes. But whenever we go to familys house he leaves me on the couch alone. I dont know if im a rebound yet he always tells me now he loves me.. An what he said to her was a mistake cuz hes an idiot an thats blowup number two. Whenever i tell him im going home he goes again dont threaten me with that.

thing is whenever i confronted kayla about it first she said im his ex girlfriend an then i said no im not i live wit him an so she found out where i worked came to my work one day looked at me all dirty an left the store she never came back. Just to make sure i was really here. She made a big deal at her store wit him that i confronted her an that he lied. I havent since found out on facebook that he talks to her since he deleted that too. But i dont know if he still talks to her at work. I do know he has aim an pretends he doesnt an her screen names on it an he goes on it when im working. I dont know for sure if he likes me. But i dont know if i should leave i feel helpless an stuck. I dont wanna be a rebound tho an im not for sure if he really loves me or wants us both.

I read all that!
You have already given him plenty of chances to be with you and treat you right. It sounds like he just wants to chase other women and not be open about it.
Based on that information i think you both want different things and you just need to decide what's best for you in the long term. I think you know already, but you just need some courage to do it and stick to it.

I agree with Scottie but I do have one question....

You are going crazy at him for facebook, myspace stuff....but what would he think about you being on a dating site???

And before anyone puts there two cents in, yes I know some people come here just to make friends etc etc etc

he knows about this site an i showed him that im only on here to make friends anyway. An i just needed help..if he really liked me or not i mean he treats me right an everything but im still hung up on the part if he even loves me because my mom says he does. Its been seven years..i just dont want him to be bored of me cuz of this other girl he liked last year. An he still takes me places and kisses me says he loves me but i just never been to his work or anyything. He doesnt kno i made this post though. Im just afraid he might run for her ones shes single again..i hope not yet he says he loves me now. He hasnt been like going anywhere with her or doing anything suspicious since i last caught him

Well... Bla lalalala. =))))

I read through all of that too. It's simple. Either take it as it is and hope for the best, or go back home and cut it. Things will never change.

If you care that much to be with him, then you'll just have to take it as it is, for it's obvious he ain't gonna change.

Besides... I have no idea what HOME means. Where is this home? Are there any other reasons for which you're not leaving him or just the "care" thing?

i live back in chicago. But hes here in massachusetts and im living here with him. My family still lives in chicago. Well i dont know i keep thinking maybe he will change but i dont know. Sometimes i ignore the bad even though sometimes im mad about it. Im just very unhappy with what happened and how he could like someone else over me while being with me for seven years. It just hurts so much.

Life bites sometimes, Queen Ruzi.

You can politely ask Choochio for her baton so you can slam dunk the lovely boyfriend.

I'm sorry. I'm just fascinated with this slam dunking thing and Choochio's baton. Enough I say. It's a riot.

we will never know the real story if we only heard it from one side......
I'll never do a judgement and come out with a "solution" from a little story told by one "victim"
if he's so crazy about internet...... get him in here, to hear his story,too

even now i ask him do you like her an he says no he likes me but in a way where hes looking down or laughing or when i ask him he gets all defensive yells at me why im asking him stupid shit. To make it worst i dont know why his sister told me the real truth about him an that girl. Shes like dont tell him. He dumped me because he liked her. Its probably only a matter of time till she breaks up with her boyfriend an he runs after her again which scares me. The girl is younge shes 19. shes portuguese and smokes pot and flirts with every guy is a party girl. An knowing him hes a very jealous guy he would kill himself if he found out she was doing that. So i dont know. When i tell him ill leave he says stop threatening me he used to cry when i said it maybe im saying it too much he wont believe me. Or he will say go home all angry an then lie about it. Augh. The girl he liked or likes has big self esteem she has a big ego about herself she says shes so hot an shes a model whenever i had a big ego he goes why do u have a big ego now he didnt like it so why would he like it when she does it?

Only you can work out what is the right thing to do, but it sounds to me like he is messing you around. If threats are'nt getting you anywhere, you need to decide whether you can put up with his behaviour or not.

Hhhhmmm, the old adage "You get the behavior you tolerate" springs to mind.
And he is putting up with your jealous outbursts.
So, the question is, what are you both getting out of the relationship that keeps you both in it?