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17.11.2008, 21:41 quote

rocketgirl

Ouch that struck a nerve u4ric.
It made my eyes prickle.

And I hope writing it helps you feel a tad better. x

 

21.11.2008, 21:47 quote

rocketgirl

I think that most of us are at some point guilty of not wanting to hurt the other person's feelings, not because we dont want to hurt their feelings but rather because it makes *us* feel bad doing it.
To be honest Bliss, saying "maybe...we'll see..." is just as bad as saying "sure I will defo call you" when the full intention is to hightail it outta there for good.
When I was a kid I really hated my ma saying "We'll see" because I knew she meant "No" but realise now she didnt have the firmness to say No and mean no.
With my own kids I've always just said No and meant no.
And thats how I am now with everyone.
I dont believe in pussyfooting about to save my own guilty feelings of being assertive and hurting the other person's feelings.
Better to cut to the chase and save both parties wasted time and hopes.
It actually hurts more to have to work out for myself when someone was less than honest.

 

22.11.2008, 14:57 quote

rocketgirl

From your angle Bliss, I agree.
However, being on the receiving end on both, "maybe" is just as disappointing, if not more so, than "oh yes definitely" when I find out that person was just saving themselves the uncomfortableness of saying "no".
One is letting the person down gently, the other being downright dishonest, so yes from that perspective one is worse than the other, but I still maintain that being upfront honest and getting it done with is far more preferable to me personally.
Sometimes being 'let down gently' robs that person of their right to be disappointed and feeling hurt by the word no.
Although we all should have a duty not to deliberately hurt others, we are not responsible for how others respond to what we do and say.

 

22.11.2008, 17:04 quote

rocketgirl

Actually, in all honesty in the past when I've been in that situation when the evening has ended and I'm thinking "Oh please dont ask to see me again..." and they do...and I say "Thank you for your company this evening, but I just dont think another date is going to be of any benefit to either of us" and they always reply "Yeah I was thinking that but didnt want to hurt your feelings". No, it doesnt hurt my feelings to state the obvious. And it shouldn't hurt the other person's feelings just because I dont feel the same way they do, if he was hoping to see me again as he was too dense to notice I was luke warm all evening.... Its just an ego thing at that stage.
Dumping someone after A LOT of dates is something else again though, of course.

And u4ric, no I always feel like shite if I upset anyone. Crying or Very sad

 

22.11.2008, 17:16 quote

rocketgirl

Ooooh I havent contributed to the OP yet!!
Ok, I have something to say to CJ.
Dont suppose he will ever read this, but he knows anyway.....

After being with me for 5 years and cheating on me behind my back with someone else and letting me know by way of telling me that you and her had decided to get married, after spending my money and getting me into a lot of debt furnishing "our" little lovenest (you bastard)....DONT come crying to me years later when she wants a divorce because she's been cheating on you with your best mate.
Serves you right you git.
I dont give sympathy where it isn't deserved, that does not make me a heartless bitch, no matter what you may say. Evil or Very Mad

/gosh I feel better for that!/

 

15.09.2009, 17:36 quote

sc0ttie

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tOifaUXPk4g

Relationships, good or bad will always teach you about yourself... Wink

To all the girls I've loved before
Who travelled in and out my door
I'm glad they came along
I dedicate this song
To all the girls I've loved before
To all the girls I once caressed
And may I say I've held the best
For helping me to grow
I owe a lot I know
To all the girls I've loved before
The winds of change are always blowing
And every time I try to stay
The winds of change continue blowing
And they just carry me away
To all the girls who shared my life
Who now are someone else's wives
I'm glad they came along
I dedicate this song
To all the girls I've loved before
To all the girls who cared for me
Who filled my nights with ecstasy
They live within my heart
I'll always be a part
Of all the girls I've loved before
The winds of change are always blowing
And every time I try to stay
The winds of change continue blowing
And they just carry me away
To all the girls we've loved before
Who travelled in and out our doors
We're glad they came along
We dedicate this song
To all the girls we've loved before
To all the girls we've loved before
Who travelled in and out our doors
We're glad they came along
We dedicate this song
To all the girls we've loved before

 

16.09.2009, 08:55 quote

sc0ttie

mirrorpool wrote:
Nice words.... but even though he's got the chin dimple I like on men... he's not my kind of heart throb haha!! but judging by the swooning going on he must be rocking a few boats around the world


Yeah he is a bit too much of a smoothie to me but the words and message is thanks for the mammaries





....sorry I meant memories Laughing UT

 
 
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