who amongst you,has had true love?
what did you feel?
why are you reading this now?
what caused it to end?
i can only say that i have experienced true love once in my life.
the relationship was filled with so many emotions
such a deep sense of fulfilment,passion,understanding,
i felt so many different things all at once.we fought,oh boy did we fight.lol
the making up was out of this world,
i was 30 when i found my true love and a cruel twist of fate wrenched it away 3 years later.
when you find it,will you know,i mean really understand what it is?
i don't know if i can ever find it again on the same level.
is that an unfair precident to set,
if you close your eyes and swell with emotion when you take your partner gently in your arms and feel the warmth of their breath on your skin,then do not let it go.

Everyone will have a different perception of what 'true love' is.
There is another thread someplace here about The One.

You say," i don't know if i can ever find it again on the same level.
is that an unfair precident to set,"

Thats where I am right now. Dont have an answer.
I hope I can find it again. Or summat similar at least, same level, but parallel. I am not yet 42. I dont want to spend the rest of my life alone. But nor do I want to settle for 'second best' or want for anyone else to feel they are my 'second best'.

i have... hence i don't really know if i wanna play the love game again
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No, I haven't. In anybodies definition, probably.
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My guess is that Stu didnt mean it literally. If he did, he would be happily playing the game still, with a string of broken hearts in his wake.
Shiraz, have you ever read Dr Eric Berne's book "Games People Play" - basically, *life* is a game and we all play them, by the same subliminal rules - is what he says.

lol if i really thought life was a game mate, i'd of chucked my cards in a long time ago and left the table !

Btw - if you think about it, we do play by a set of rules in life, only some of us don't know all of them ( namely me ), there are basic rules such as eat, sleep, drink etc then the other rules - known as law..

There are rules for everything, it's just that some of us know where we can bend them and where we can't
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Shiraz, I have to admit to not agreeing with everything Berne said. But alot of what he said about Social Interaction is at times very obviously played out, even on these forums at times.
It would make more sense if his 'rules' were called 'formulas': If I do/say A, then B will happen (the reaction I want from others). When a person does this for the sake of love, it is not real love, that is manipulation and control.
But, I wont go into that, as its rather off topic. Berne also discussed Transactional Analysis, which is something I very much agree with.
If we all have 3 States (2 of which are sub-divided) then I think to be IN love one needs both parties to be in the Free Child State, and to Love ie accept the other person warts and all and live compatibly, then both parties are in the Adult State.
I would imagine most relationships would begin falling IN love, then settles down to Love, warts and all. It seems to me that the fallen in love stage fizzles out and does not settle into something deeper and more meaningful when one or the other finds a foible/behavior pattern not to their liking and tries to force them to change.
Aftre all, one can be madly in love with a person they caught a fleeting glimpse of on a train, a movie star etc. but can only surely really love when they get to know a person at a much deeper level of understanding?
That's my current understanding of this strange thing called love!

Not yet....but then I've probably gone out of my way not to find it over the last 25 years. Maybe something I regret now and maybe I'm worse off because of it.

I have once. It's a very rare thing. I would hope to find it again someday.