Well, I am/have fallen into that 'friendship' zone, and we are both working on getting back out of it. Sometimes life just gets in the way, one or both of you is too tired/busy/stressed/whatever and you kind of drift into that place where you simply forget to make any effort for 'the relationship' - so me personally, having decided that the 'friendship' zone is not satisfying enough to sustain, and he says he feels the same way, I am hoping that we can now build on the love/value/understanding that a true friendship is made of, and take it back to where it used to be with all the passion and romance that once was.

Right, armor back on, smile fixed back in place....onwards and upwards I say!!!

PS I was going to say summat along the lines of "younger people dont have that problem" but actually........my son is 15yrs old but doesn't have the time or inclination to pursue a young lass he has his eye on cuz all his time and mind is taken up - when not schooling, or skateboarding/playstationing with his mates - looking after his 91 yrs old blind granddad and 92 yrs old alzheimers nan - so this 'friendship' zone can happen to anybody, of any age or disposition.

following samatron's reverse psychology

actually the only way to avoid the friendzone is to put them in it first. It's not as risky as it sounds because by and large guys can be persuaded out of it and girls cant. Strategically its a better option than hoping for the best.

When they're in the FZ they're forced to get to know you on your terms. You've got the option to blur the friend boundary at some point later and its much more socially acceptable for a female to employ her feminine charms to get what she finds herself desiring. A guy can always say "y'know I didnt think we'd get on so well" whereas once a girl's made up her mind that's pretty much the end.

That all sounds a bit tactical to me, in a greystone kind of way... if you meet someone and they dont fancy you, i think you just have to deal with it and move on. doing all that reverse psychology stuff when you meet a woman seems a bit underhand to me.