In everyone's opinion is it possible to come out of the friendzone after falling into it?
I started seeing a girl and it was all going brilliantly then all of a sudden barriers came rushing up and she said she "loved me as a friend" and obviously I wanted it to be more than that and she knows it.
Has anyone ever been in the friendzone and then been able to come out of it and be in a relationship with the person or should we all just cut our losses and move on?
_________________
..."all the things i really like to do are immoral,illegal or fattening"...

In my opinion being a woman and all in the past if i didnt want more with a guy and i knew he did you would play the friend card because most men would respect it and not push you further. I think women do it for this reason or to test you to see how far your feelings run for them. I would always be honest and tell the girl how you truly feel and see what she says. Once your in the frienzone honesty is always best because you could end up wasting your time on a person who will never want more with you.

Good luck x

I did at the time think it was a test when things started to change in the relationship, but its becoming clear that its going to be friends for the forseeable future, She knows how I feel however and Im gonna have to move on from it. Ah well nothing ventured nothing gained!!!
_________________
..."all the things i really like to do are immoral,illegal or fattening"...

I was really close mates with a girl a few years ago.
We were just friends, but we occasionally snogged, and were very touchy feely with each other. But at the same time, she insisted that nothing would happen. She went away one weekend and I hooked up with somebody else. When she came back and found out. Sure, we were still friends, but suddenly she wanted to sleep with me!
I can't say that this is what you should do, but I think there is some reverse psychology sense in there! If you make yourself unavailable to her as a boyfriend, she'll be more attracted to you.
Counterintuitive, but go out there and find someone else! There is a huge supply of single women, not a scarcity. Go out there and meet more people. Meet her friends! I bet there'll be a lot of similarities!

I heard one bit of dating advice which cannot go amiss too. It's a good idea to find three female friends who are the type of person you want to date. Don't try anything on with them as a rule! This gives you an insight into what it is you want, and how to communicate with your type.

Welcome to the friendzone.

Bahahahahahaha... @ Chickai
This Samatron fella is quite smart, as I've previously mentioned... however... His techniques do imply lots of risks. Not this one necessarily cause it wasn't actually intended, but if you'd do stuff like that on purpose I'm sure at some level it would come out wrong. It's funny cause what he's sayin looks like being the key but could actually lead you to so much more trouble. Best respects to you Samatron though. I do think you're really smart.
Besides... The situation he's described happens once in a million years. They weren't actually "just friends", they sometimes smooched. As for other things I can remember readin somethin funny which translated the women and men language... But I'm gonna start a new topic for this cause I think it deserves it.

I used to go out with this girl, and we sorta fell into the freindship zone, so we split and continued to be freinds. A few months down the line I hooked up with one of her best mates, nothing serious, just a bit of fun like, you know. Anyhow, within a few weeks of me occassionaly checking her mate, she was all over me again. More-or-less offeriing it on a plate, so to speak. After we hooked up again, she turned to me (whilst actually in bed) and asked who was best, her or her freind ..

Take what you want from that, but it made me think she was only interested in me that way again, because I had chosen her freind later on. you know, like jealousy? or competition or something ..

:/

Russ
_________________
Take a chance .. it may be your only hope ..

http://youtube.com/watch?v=yELV6X9QrWg Have a good day.

i'm guessing a way to avoid the friendzone is to not hang around with the girl all the time, maybe only a couple of days a week. Then when you are around her, flirt. But just in a fun way, nothing that says, "i love you, love me back!" Hell, i dunno if that will work, since i have little to no experience with girls haha. But that's what i'm planning on doing when i meet this american girl i've been talking to for a while in the summer.

Any truth to this?

the friendzone? i dont know if it exists or not but we are fundamentally a fcuked up generation. if it isnt by parents or relatives then it's by past experiences in love.

i am in love with someone and my love is unfortunately unrequited. she already has a bloke. we talk and she likes to flirt around and be cheeky, but now i have to draw a line apparently. (not by her volition, by mine)

if anyone reading thinks that i am saddened they couldnt be wrong, because a few times in your life you will all experience this strange sensation of love - not the one that gives you goosebumps, but instead the one that calms you down. not the one that sets your pulse racing, but the one that makes you feel as if you are at peace.

i dont know how that love comes out to be - perhaps it is because at some level you truly understand that person - so you wish for their happiness above yours

yes, theirs above your own

and that my friend is the kind of love i hold for this particular woman, it does not hurt and it does not burn - it falls like rain cooling everything down.

and if tomorrow, we would have to part ways - i would be content at least that she was happy where she was.

if you call that the friendzone - so be it.
you can never be just friends with someone your heart wants with its entireity.

but if the person is really special - you feel this kind of love for them. one that just gives without question.

kind of like an unconditional love

/rant over

it certainly does exists and unfortunately once you get there, there is no going back. Happened to me a few times in the past with either ex's who say they still want to be friends or dates that didnt quite work out the way i wanted them to saying the same thing. I usually just cut them off completely as it's much easier if you have strong feelings for them and enables you to move on.