I didn't want to split up, but I had to for my own sanity. She made one mistake, but that mistake meant I couldn't be with her. So, although I love her, I won't be with her. I won't live my life looking over my shoulder. Although, I admit I miss her terribly. That is all.

I totally understand

Nope you can't be friends with an ex. If you were in love then it's too hard to stay friends. If it was just a fling and there wasn't any intense feelings involved then yes maybe.

I am still very good friends with my ex husband..I would even go to say 'best friends'..we were both young when we met..me 15..him 18..we married young..had kids young..been divorced longer than our marriage lasted..he admits to making some bad decisions..but I don't regret a minute of our relationship..We have two beautiful kids out of it..

Mmmmmmm

Not too good with my ex at the mo.
Mainly down to her.

Yeah sure you can. But it depons on who you split up I guess. I split up with my old gf and it was torture coz we still worked together for a year! Every day it hurt both of us. The pain went away when we both moved on with our lives. Now we're back in touch as friends and it's great. We can talk about new relationships etc. We're like brother and sister I guess.

I don't see why you can't stay friends with an ex, if you did fall in love and if you're mature enough surely you can use that love to be thier friend. It's not easy and it's going to hurt at first, but love shouldn't be wasted...right?

This is a good question to ask, and as with everything on this forum, something that a lot of people will answer in very different ways.

I must say, until recently, i have always agreed with Moose. No. You cant be friends with your ex. All my exes (barr one, which i will come to in a minute) I have split up with for a reason, and there have been no ties, and therefore no need to continue speaking to each other. Besides, depending on the level of commitment with that person, it just fucking hurts.

However, I am currently friends with an ex (the one i posted on here about actually). Since we split up he has developed this amazingly funny and brilliant personality, and i do enjoy spending time with him, but that is all it is. If i get with someone whom i consider a boyfriend/partner/significant other then i will stop spending time with him, because i can see why that would be strange or uncomfortable for the other person, but until that time comes, i dont see why i shouldnt enjoy spending time with him.

Besides, i am not daft enough to get drawn into thinking it might work out again, because we have spoken about it and both agree that we are just too different and get along brilliantly now and wouldnt want to wreck that.

I have a brilliant ex-husband who I get on better with now, than I ever did. We actually went to Cyprus for a holiday at Christmas (separate beds). My son had the best time and appreciates the fact that we are great mates.

As for general ex's....yeah I like to stay friends but if they don't, no problems